The phrase "emotional tug" refers to a strong feeling one experiences that pulls on their emotions, often causing a powerful reaction or response. Full definition
However, Sherry finds the world a bit more difficult for her as a convicted felon, as jobs are hard to come by, the parole officer shows little sympathy, and her family is playing emotional tug - of - war with Alexis's feelings. (qwipster.net)
The reality is regardless of how much you like your nanny, it's often an emotional tug of war... (health-and-parenting.com)