As to the first question, some comments on actual notice appear at end of this comment. (slaw.ca)
Because the holidays tend to bring about more family gatherings and social events, this can set us up for a lot of opportunity to to be on the receiving end of those comments. (happywithbaby.com)
As I said at the very end of my comment taking up your cross is not about self destruction or repression. (redeeminggod.com)