Living in spaces you want to avoid or in a place that makes you feel withdrawn, exhausted, anxious or upset is a more subtle way to experience imbalance in your home. (mindbodygreen.com)
Figure out between the two of you what your default reaction is to stress, and make an agreement about the amount of space you both want immediately after an argument. (sanfranciscosextherapy.com)
Place it over the wood and determine how much space you want around it. (jennakateathome.com)