Avoidant people tend to equate intimacy with a loss of independence and will try to minimize closeness.
Avoidant people tend to have some or all of the following characteristics:
When an Anxious person meets an Avoidant person, the distance
the Avoidant person tends to maintain can become a gap the Anxious one feels compelled to close.
Not exact matches
Previous studies had found that more men than women have what's called a «dismissing
avoidant» style in relationships, meaning they
tend to deny their emotions and their need for the other
person.
People who score high on short - term strategies also
tend to be emotionally
avoidant.
Anxious individuals
tend to strongly desire relationships and want to be especially close to their partners, while
avoidant people generally desire less closeness, are less trusting and less reliant on their partners.
Some
people tend to be open and trusting (secure attachment), some
people tend to be more needy and insecure (anxious attachment), and yet others prefer to keep their distance (
avoidant attachment).
In a nutshell,
people who are anxious
tend to intensely desire connections with other
people and are worried that their partners will abandon them whereas those who are
avoidant tend to be wary of closeness to others and often feel that their partners want to be closer to them than they would like.
People with these disorders
tend to have problems handling difficult emotions and often respond with physical and psychic symptoms or
avoidant behavioural patterns.
Avoidant Style «A person with an avoidant attachment style tends to show restricted emotions especially softer emotions like sadness or lon
Avoidant Style «A
person with an
avoidant attachment style tends to show restricted emotions especially softer emotions like sadness or lon
avoidant attachment style
tends to show restricted emotions especially softer emotions like sadness or loneliness.
People tend to form attachments on a continuum which has
avoidant attachment at one extreme; anxious attachment at the other extreme and secure attachment at the midpoint.
The ASQ includes five scales: (1) ASQ - F1, «Confidence in relationships»; higher scores in this subscale indicate a secure attachment (e.g., «I find it relatively easy to get close to other
people»); (2) ASQ - F2, «Need for approval» denotes both worried and fearful aspects of attachment, characterized by an individual's need for others» approval and acceptance (e.g., «It's important for me to avoid doing things that others won't like»); (3) ASQ - F3: the subjects» anxious behavior in searching for others, motivated by the necessity to fulfill dependency needs, is depicted by the subscale «Preoccupation with relationships»; it represents a central topic in the conceptualization of anxious / ambivalent attachment (e.g., «It's very important for me to have a close relationship»); (4) ASQ - F4, «Discomfort with closeness» reflects an
avoidant attachment (e.g., «I prefer to keep to myself»), and (5) ASQ - F5 «Relationships as secondary» is typical of a dismissive style, in which subjects
tend to emphasize achievements and independence, in order to protect themselves against hurt and vulnerability (e.g., «To ask for help is to admit that you're a failure»).