Destry
Blamer... was extremely patient and understanding and very willing to
help me find what I was looking for, most importantly what was best for my needs and situation.
As they process the clearly laid out exercise and take the steps one at a time, the structure keeps the conversation safe and manageable while I use my skills as an attachment - oriented observer to
help the withdrawn spouse re-engage a little bit, share some risky emotions, or I
help the
blamer soften their internal dialogue and reach out with tenderness.