Sentences with phrase «in alcoholic families»

«In alcoholic families, for instance, kids take on different roles — be it the scapegoat, caretaker, or clown — and if they are being validated in that role, then they bring it to school, where they suck up all the energy in the class and deprive others of quality learning time.»

There are at least four factors in the alcoholic family which are disturbing to children and teen - agers: 24.

And most of my paranoia was a re-creation of the traumas I had experienced as an unwanted little girl, growing up in an alcoholic family.

Olivia Laing grew up in an alcoholic family herself.

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It had nothing to do with Christianity because I was not raised in a family of faith; rather, in a home with an alcoholic, there was an underground but extremely strong message that negative emotions should be avoided at all costs.

Plus, simply listing in the bulletin that such a meeting takes place on the premises speaks volumes to the congregation about a church's stance toward alcoholics and addicts and their families.

Thomas J. Shipp, a Methodist minister with wide experience in helping alcoholics, has produced a practical book entitled Helping the Alcoholic and His Family.14.

20 The officer in charge of a standard Skid Row corps may refer a converted alcoholic to Family Services, which may provide psychiatric therapy or otherwise aid in the reconciliation of the fFamily Services, which may provide psychiatric therapy or otherwise aid in the reconciliation of the familyfamily.

Included in the advantages mentioned were the natural entree to the family, confidentiality of relationship, the fact that there are no fees involved, that many people naturally take their problems to their pastor, and, most important, that the minister has the dynamic of the Christian faith and fellowship available for helping the alcoholic.

It is ironic that in spite of the new helping resources that are now available, the majority of alcoholics and their families continue to suffer the ravages of the illness.

Yet their consumption of alcohol does not affect their families, jobs, finances, health and public behavior as it does in traditional diagnoses of alcoholics.

I grew up in a largely dysfunctional family, with an alcoholic father.

In fact, the epiphany that came to me on the day over six years ago when I chose to quit drinking was that all my crying to God to help me quit wasn't going to work — because in that moment I was confronted by the awareness that I had to choose whether to quit or not, that there was no heavenly big daddy waiting in the wings to help me do so, that my choice to not drink would not change the fact that I have come from a family of alcoholics and other addictions that may have a genetic componenIn fact, the epiphany that came to me on the day over six years ago when I chose to quit drinking was that all my crying to God to help me quit wasn't going to work — because in that moment I was confronted by the awareness that I had to choose whether to quit or not, that there was no heavenly big daddy waiting in the wings to help me do so, that my choice to not drink would not change the fact that I have come from a family of alcoholics and other addictions that may have a genetic componenin that moment I was confronted by the awareness that I had to choose whether to quit or not, that there was no heavenly big daddy waiting in the wings to help me do so, that my choice to not drink would not change the fact that I have come from a family of alcoholics and other addictions that may have a genetic componenin the wings to help me do so, that my choice to not drink would not change the fact that I have come from a family of alcoholics and other addictions that may have a genetic component.

Of the 698 children born on Kauai in 1955, 201 were in the high - risk category, exposed to various combinations of perinatal trauma, family discord, chronic poverty, and alcoholic, under - educated, or mentally disturbed parents.

Unlike the skid - row «derelicts» who seemed to be the typical homeless in the «60s, the street people today embrace the whole gamut of humanity: the «new poor,» the mentally disabled, evicted families, elderly single people, hoboes, alcoholics, drug addicts, abused spouses, abused young people and cast - off children.

Think of five and one - half million alcoholics and twenty million family members caught in a gigantic web of suffering.

Many individual clergymen are providing valuable services in alcoholism education, working with local Councils on Alcoholism and helping alcoholics and their families.

An under standing of the dynamics involved here is exceedingly important in counseling with families of alcoholics.

In addition to its broad target — reaching the entire congregation with a message that will help them understand alcoholism — the church has a number of more limited and strategic target groups: teen - agers and pre-teens who are making or are about to make decisions about alcohol; parents who are searching for ways to prepare their children to cope constructively with alcohol and to avoid alcoholism; alcoholics and their families who need help but are afraid to come out of hiding (see Chapter 8).

6 in Basic Types of Pastoral Counseling; «Enriching Marriage and Family Life,» in Growth Counseling: New Tools for Clergy and Laity, Part 1; Growth Counseling for Marriage Enrichment; Growth Counseling for Mid-Years Couples; and «Alcoholics Anonymous — Our Greatest Resource,» chap.

This attitude will be reflected in his relationships with alcoholics and their families.

The five areas in which important contributions can be made by a congregation are: Education, prevention, community outreach, helping the alcoholic, and helping the family.

Few things in life are more heartrending or frustrating to a counselor or to the family than to watch helplessly while the alcoholic engages in what amounts to protracted suicide.

This is an illustration of a church cooperating with a community agency in a new pattern of service to families of alcoholics.

In short, his ability to implement strategies in all five areas — education, prevention, community outreach, helping alcoholics and their families — will be influenced by the relative presence or absence of the therapeutic attitudIn short, his ability to implement strategies in all five areas — education, prevention, community outreach, helping alcoholics and their families — will be influenced by the relative presence or absence of the therapeutic attitudin all five areas — education, prevention, community outreach, helping alcoholics and their families — will be influenced by the relative presence or absence of the therapeutic attitude.

But, at the same time, a church should be engaged in some one experimental approach by which it seeks to develop (1) ways of bringing a unique service to the helping o ~ alcoholics and their families, and / or (2) new ways of reaching and motivating hidden alcoholics to accept help.

The basic attitudinal climate in a congregation with respect to alcoholism provides either a bridge or a barrier to its work with alcoholics and their families.

One thing I have learned as well is that growing up in an alcoholic - addicted and codependent family from many generations - I personally NEED more of the emotion based stuff - not a lot, but some.

When I read the descriptions of the rages and mood swings of the alcoholic father, I realized that we had the same thing in our family.

In this way the spouse and other family members can exert a steady pressure on the alcoholic to accept treatment.

Marriage counseling for the parents, conjoint family therapy for all the members of the family, or psychotherapy for the disturbed child and the parents at a child guidance clinic — all these can be effective ways of healing the emotional wounds suffered by children in the chaos of the alcoholic home.

The counselor needs to know the mental hospital commitment procedures in his state to help the family of an alcoholic with severe mental disturbance.

(e) Educating the congregation to fulfill its pastoral care function in relation to the alcoholic's family.

In order to be helpful, the family must be firm with the alcoholic, walking the middle ground between recrimination on the one hand and pampering on the other.

In the case of Mrs. R., these include an understanding of the nature of alcoholism (as it eventually became clear that Mr. R. is an alcoholic), the futility of her attempts to coerce him to stop drinking, and the importance of her changing her assumption that any improvement in the family situation is totally dependent on his sobrietIn the case of Mrs. R., these include an understanding of the nature of alcoholism (as it eventually became clear that Mr. R. is an alcoholic), the futility of her attempts to coerce him to stop drinking, and the importance of her changing her assumption that any improvement in the family situation is totally dependent on his sobrietin the family situation is totally dependent on his sobriety.

Another side of the pastor's opportunity lies in the fact that members of an alcoholic's family often need understanding counsel as much as the alcoholic.

Much of the material in this and subsequent sections of this chapter is adapted from the author's article, «Pastoral Care of the Alcoholic's Family Before Sobriety,» Pastoral Psychology, XIII (April, 1962), 19 - 29.

One of the most helpful descriptions of the marital problems that beset the alcoholic family after sobriety and how they can be met, is in the Big Book, Chapter 9, entitled «The Family Afterwards.&family after sobriety and how they can be met, is in the Big Book, Chapter 9, entitled «The Family Afterwards.&Family Afterwards.»

These persons will have a special entrée to the alcoholic's family and can therefore be of help in relating the family to both the church and to Al - Anon.

If all the troubles in the family of an alcoholic were the direct effects of alcoholism, it would be reasonable to assume that, given a certain period of time after sobriety, most of these troubles would disappear.

The realistic and constructive goal of pastoral care with the family of a drinking alcoholic is to help them deal constructively with the runaway family crisis in which they are emotionally entangled.

In addition, an understanding of the dynamics of the interpersonal relationships in the alcoholic's family and the effects of alcoholism on these relationships is importanIn addition, an understanding of the dynamics of the interpersonal relationships in the alcoholic's family and the effects of alcoholism on these relationships is importanin the alcoholic's family and the effects of alcoholism on these relationships is important.

The various facets of the clergyman's opportunity in helping the family could be summarized as follows: (a) Bringing the hidden alcoholic's family out of hiding.

One's general preparation for counseling alcoholics is also useful in counseling the families of alcoholics.

It seems to be a blow to the family's self - image to think of one of their number as an «alcoholic» and as one who is not fully in control of his behavior.

In Stage 2, the effort will be to hide the problem from the outside world, coupled with desperate efforts on the part of the family to control the alcoholic's drinking by any and all means.

If involvement in AA, Al - Anon, and the church program do not suffice in helping the alcoholic and his wife make the marital adjustments which will undergird productive family life, the pastor should help them obtain marriage counseling.

But where it is, the pastor will find that a vital resource for helping the families of alcoholics is very near at hand — in his own church.

The «suggestions for newcomers» in an Al - Anon brochure can be used by the pastor with families of alcoholics.

Our aim was to equip the clergyman to become involved in a more meaningful way with alcoholics and their families.