«On the other hand, I and
most of the other parents I know have a bond of love with their children that is so strong that even our own deaths won't break it.»
In contrast, I and
most of the other parents I know have a bond of love with their children that is so strong that even our own deaths won't break it.
Most of the other parents in the group were required to return to work full time after 12 months of parental leave.
When you were married to the other parent at least the child had you available to provide some protection for the child when the other parent's pathology was triggered, and during the marriage
most of the other parent's pathology was directed at you so that the child was spared the intensity of a direct assault by the narcissistic / (borderline) parent's pathology.
Not exact matches
Perhaps the
most important part
of that strategy relies on Target resolving its distribution woes and stocking shelves this August with everything a
parent or kid could want on a back - to - school list, as well as those special items they can't find at
other stores (Shaun White's collection
of skate shoes and apparel, for instance).
Since estate taxes are assessed only when bequests are left to someone
other than a husband or wife —
most commonly, when estates pass, after
parents» death, to the children — it's smart to buy enough second - to - die coverage in the name
of the beneficiary to pay off future estate - tax bills.
Dig deeper, and you'll often find motives that are far messier — selfishness, revenge, fear
of failure, a need to prove oneself to a seemingly unloving
parent and many
other things that
most people would be reluctant to admit, if they were even aware
of those motives in the first place.
We invest much less in young children, and that stems largely from the fact that
most other advanced economies view early childhood education, child care and
other benefits targeted at
parents with young children as «public goods,» meaning investments that, absent public support, would be insufficiently made from the perspective
of society's well - being.
This is
most noticeable in the Millennial generation
of entrepreneurs who are more likely to be driven by the desire to increase their influence and have a positive impact on
others than their
parents» generation.
At the heart
of To Empower People is the contention that those
most immediately affected by the decision (notably
parents and families) are in the best position to decide which institutions will best serve their needs - in education, health care, housing, and
other areas.
Most of mine come from my own
parents but then I picked up a few
others from books or friends or mentors.
Even beyond politics, religion and
parenting, beyond the bigness
of our world and its problems, to the smallest,
most intimate
of relationships, it is always powerful and life - giving to use your words to love each
other.
A
most particular threat to the human rights project is the coercive use
of foreign aid and
other international programs in order to advance alleged rights related to procreation, population control, and the independence
of children from their
parents (in the name
of «children's rights»).
761) or, as the anonymous Office
of Christian
Parents puts it, two who are made one by marriage «may joyfully give due benevolence one to the
other; as two musicall instruments rightly fitted, doe make a
most pleasant and sweet harmonie in a well tuned consort».7
That God appeared there, in Palestine, two thousand years ago and was born to these specific
parents, Mary and Joseph, and was placed in that trough and no
other, and was crucified under Pontius Pilate and left one grave exquisitely empty — this is the «scandal
of particularity» so often named as Christianity's
most challenging feature and its
most world - affirming.
In terms
of deep attitudes about oneself,
others, and God,
parents are the
most important teachers
of religion.
Although the probability
of a
parent donating one or the
other allele to an offspring is for the
most part 50/50, the actual donations do not reflect this.5 probability (e.g. consider how many families have all boys or all girls).
I have already stated that the evidence indicates that the chief contribution to happiness is the quality
of relationships with those with whom one has
most to do,
parents, siblings,
other relatives, neighbors, playmates, teacher, employers, and
others.
These forces are the stuff
of everyday life: rates
of birth higher for Mexicans and Mexican - Americans than for
most other ethnic groups; a chain
of entirely legal immigration, as Mexican - Americans bestow residency and citizenship on their spouses, children and
parents; and a practice
of illegal immigration that is, in the vast majority
of instances, born from ordinary people exercising common sense.
I would suggest that such voracious demands on people's lives, felt
most mercilessly by the hardest pressed, such as employed single
parents, are inimical to the family and to many
other things
of value.
The
parents,
most of them keeping one eye on the game and the
other on the latest diorama
of horror in The New York Times, looked up in unison and regarded the trucks with knowing looks.
Aside from getting to share some
of this tour with Tariku and with my
parents — who showed up and have been very supportive — the
most meaningful part so far has been the opportunity I've had to meet so many
other members
of the adoption triad (that's adoption speak for adoptees, birth families, and adoptive
parents).
Things that have worked for
other parents: getting rid
of the baby bucket & getting a rear - facing convertible seat; putting the seat slightly more upright (for older babies whose heads don't slump forward & no more than 30 degrees), putting the radio station to static & having it the same volume as the crying, singing, trying different kinds
of music, sitting in the back with the baby (obviously only works if someone else can drive:)-RRB-, having toys that are just for the car, only going somewhere when baby is sleepy... I'm sure there's
others, those are the
most common
While much
of what the speakers at the N.F.L. / USA Football luncheon I attended last week in New York City was concussions and football safety advice MomsTEAM has been giving
parents for years, what impressed me the
most was what we were told about the ongoing efforts by the league and its youth football partner to improve health and safety for football players from the pros down to the youth level, a topic which takes up more
of N.F.L. commissioner Roger Goodell's time than any
other.
I think one
of my
most important responsibilities as a
parent is helping my children to be good communicators -
of their own needs, as listeners to
others and very importantly - how to peacefully negotiate the conflicts - big or small - that they come upon in their days.
What I do know is that both
of my children, one whom never experienced the CIO method, and one who may will be in align with the rest
of my family as adults based on our all around parental methods and regardless
of whether one CIO or not: Educated at the graduate degree level or higher, married with NO divorces, able to afford to maintain themselves and family with no outside financial help, respectful, grateful to our
parents, loving, kind, compassionate, often volunteering and donating our time to numerous charities, RESPONSIBLE and ACCOUNTABLE for all
of our actions, independent, close to each
other and our friends and
most importantly HAPPY!
In
other words, they promised the elixir
most seductive to
parents - the opportunity to give their child an advantage, a leg up in what was assumed to be the competitive world
of infancy and early childhood.
Most of all, I think it's important for
parents to be able to share their struggles and shortcomings with
others without fear
of judgment if we are to successfully overcome our compulsion to spank or to discipline punitively.
Because the design
of the Mei Tai uses straps on both shoulders, this makes them great for
parents with heavy children as it distributes the weight to both shoulders, not just a single shoulder like
most other carriers.
In addition to MomsTeam's longstanding efforts to educate
parents on the dangers
of child abuse in youth sports,
most recently
of boys, there are
other websites which publicize instances
of abuse, including www.badjocks.com, where Bob Reno provides a monthly recap
of abuse cases.
Finally, the tip I found
most useful when doubting our
parenting choices amidst a sea
of bottles, strollers, and schedulers is: find a community
of other crunchy
parents and hang out with them more than you hang out with those who preach
other parenting styles.
Most of the
parents consider baby walker and
other similar devices that allow
parents to sit their baby for a long time to prepare lunch.
You could end up living with one
parent most of the time and visiting the
other, or your
parents may split their time with you evenly.
Although our son barely made a peep all evening, it was clear that
most of the
other diners that night didn't share our belief that children should be included in
parents» outside - the - home activities.
One
of the
most valuable contributions
of the anthropology
of family life is the information it gives
parents to enable them compare their own cultural norms with those
of others.
The
most influential developmental scientist
of modern times, Urie Bronfenbrenner, said that the degree to which
parents can affect their children's development depends in large part on the more remote forces in their environment — the culture and policies that are the «blueprint» for all the
other forces in children's lives.
To ensure positive
parenting,
most of the experts suggest tackling the kids with tricks
other than making some must - follow rules that
most of the kids frankly hate.
There's a lot more to be learned about safe and effective co sleeping, but it's always a good idea to start yourself off on the right foot by learning some
of the best suggestions and
most tried - and - true hints that
other parents and even healthcare professionals have discovered over the years.
I think the
most difficult part
of dealing with this issue isn't just the stares or questions from
other parents, friends or acquaintances... For us it has been SCHOOL.
After several months
of language and cultural training, he will spend 2 years as a Peace Corps volunteer teaching mathematics to young people, living in a village with a native family, and having little contact with
other volunteers and limited access to the greater world — and,
most certainly, limited contact with his
parents.
It's a reason to get out
of the house when you're a new
parent:
Most libraries offer singing and reading sessions for babies, meaning you can get out
of the house to meet
other parents.
Most other parents of multiples I've spoken to about this have one good sleeper and one not - so - good sleeper, just as we do.
Even with the
most helpful spouse,
other family members and friends, you'll need an adjustment period to being a
parent of two.
Although
most parents think
of cow's milk when they think
of milk, there are actually a wide variety
of milk and
other non-dairy milk drinks that can usually substitute for milk.
One
of the
most interesting things to me was seeing how my
parents handled us growing up and turning 18 versus
other parents.
In the end, it all comes back to education: In the ideal world, a
parent's decision about whether to allow a child to start playing or continue playing collision sports before high school under current rules
of play (which are evolving in the direction
of safety, fortunately, as seen, for instance, in USA Hockey's ban on body checking at the Pee Wee hockey level and below, and limits on full - contact practices instituted at every level
of football, from Pop Warner, to high school, college, and the NFL), will be a conscious one; a decision in which the risks
of participating in a particular sport - provided it is based on the
most up - to - date information about those risks and a consideration
of other risk factors that might come into play for their child, such as pre-existing learning disabilities (e.g. ADHD), chronic health conditions (e.g., a history
of history
of multiple concussions or seizures, history
of migraines), or a reckless and overly aggressive style
of play - are balanced against the benefits to the child
of participating.
This whole thing is profoundly disgusting,
most of all the
parents of the kid who lit out
of the building with their poop - covered kid and did not stop to give the
other mother wipes, or to clean up the slide, or even to apologize.
So, while policy must recognise that new mothers still do
most of the childcare and new fathers
most of the earning, it must also acknowledge that both
parents are equally responsible for both caring and earning: neither can work unless his or her children are looked after; neither can care unless the
other — or the State — is footing the bill.
The experience
of becoming a
parent is like no
other, and when you share that with a group
of people, they may become your lifeline, the friends who understand you the
most, and the people you trust with your struggles, fears, and joys
of parenting.
The trust and friendship you build with
other parents can be some
of the
most vulnerable and rewarding friendships in your lives.