As an adoptee I've had a lot of issues with belonging, like, «Who am I?
As an adoptee, it would be very easy for me to not know blood relatives.
I appreciate the motivation to reflect on adoption -
both as an adoptee and an adoptive mom.
As both an adoptee and an adoptive mom, I have many feelings that come up around this stuff.
As an adoptee, it took me a long time to realize why birthdays were such a complicated emotional mess for me.
Again, it's important to remember that the adoptee's adoption experience
as an adoptee is separate than that of the child being adopted.
As an adoptee first, and then an adoptive parent 32 years later, I can not think of a SINGLE reason to withhold information.
As an adoptee in the closed era of adoption, I've always listened intently when birthparents talk about their experiences via open adoption.
As an adoptee, I think we have a bit of wickedness in our humor.
As an adoptee, I've taken it to heart.
Le N» Ge:
As an adoptee, I don't remember ever not knowing.
As an adoptee, adoption will always be very close to her heart.
Kat:
As an adoptee from open adoption, I really appreciate that you talk to them about how it used as a coercive tool.
Astrid is on the board of directors of the North American Council on Adoptable Children and has authored many articles on the subject of adoption including being a chapter contributor in the book Parents
As Adoptees.
It is my perspective
as an adoptee and birth mother.
As the adoptee, it just seems like to me that the distorted perceptions and narrow mindedness about open verses closed adoptions come from selfish individuals who are more concerned about full - filling their own personal needs than that of a child.
The supposition that because it's a hospital there is no bias or skin in the game is belied by the fact that Rebecca is an adoptive parent, I can't remove my bias
as an adoptee.
By Meika Rouda
As an adoptee, I never felt like an outcast until I started attending adoption conferences.
It is stronger to me than DNA, our shared experience
as adoptees.
Also,
as an adoptee, I feel that the family that raised me, my adoptive family, is my «real» family.
Rebecca writes of her emotional evolution
as an adoptee in Don't Be Frightened By My Anger, My Grief, or Even My Love — It Only Means That I'm Awake.
That is what I will share
as an adoptee and as someone who has worked with adoptees for 11 years.
Even if you have fallen in love with a puppy that may present some minor symptoms, a pet owner doesn't always need to eliminate
him as an adoptee.
As adoptees age into young adulthood and beyond, what do you see happening to the level of openness once the full decision - making is left to them?
As an adoptee I feel like I fit in both my birth and adoptive families.
As an adoptee, it was both really cool and also really hard sometimes and then you add in the feelings of others really important to you that may not have wanted or approve of the reunion that makes it harder.
Lori, that was one of the reasons that I wanted an open adoption too... to not go through as an adoptive mom my child's reunion with their birth family, because my reunion with my birth family
as an adoptee overwhelmed me and in the beginning I wasn't focused on my mom's feelings and how it was affecting her and I was really focused on my birth family for awhile after the reunion.
Marikathryn has a lifetime of adoption experience
as an adoptee through closed adoption and as a birthmother who placed a child through open adoption in 1993.
Again, it's important to remember that the adoptee's adoption experience
as an adoptee is separate than that of the child being adopted.
As an Adoptee, she understands the complexities found within this amazing and multidimensional population.
From my experiences
as an adoptee, my suggestion would be to make it feel safe for your adopted child to ask questions and to deserve answers as a worthy human being.
As an adoptee first, and then an adoptive parent 32 years later, I can not think of a SINGLE reason to withhold information.
As an adoptee Im so happy he has found his family as an adoptive parent you know that the child is never really yours they have a family.
Also,
as an adoptee myself... what a beautiful, beautiful, love song.
As an adoptee myself, I am totally pumped to know that proceeds are going to go to help knit families together!
As an adoptee and a nurse working with neonates in an ICU (who occasionally have life long challenges), it warned my heart to watch this video.
Not exact matches
Such
adoptees do about
as well on a wide range of indicators of self - esteem and ethnic identity formation
as their non-adopted siblings.
In return for being given an inheritance within the company the
adoptee adult accepts obligations to the adopter such
as maintaing tombs and Shinto prayer rites.
Christians, I» m afraid, can be just
as blind to
adoptee suffering
as the wider society.
I wanted to talk about how much I have learned from reading the writings of adult
adoptees, and how their experiences of loss and isolation inform me
as a parent, and also break my heart.
Just like no two
adoptees» stories are alike (and how they process their adoption), I realized
as time
as gone by, that no two birth mamas are alike either.
Aimed at adoptive families,
adoptees, professionals, and birth parents, Adoption.com includes information on attorneys, agencies, relevant books and magazines, and international adoption,
as well
as a library of articles on adoption.
As a transracial Korean
adoptee, Robyn's personal participation in post-adoption services including teen groups, mentor & mentee programs, living abroad in Korea, navigating birth family search & reunion experiences, and DNA testing have all deeply influenced and informed much of her professional perspectives.
Kevin Hofmann is the author of Growing Up Black in White, a memoir that shares, from the
adoptee point of view, what it was like to grow up
as a transracial
adoptee.
For
adoptees — especially those placed
as infants — adoption fractured this primal security bond, before they had the words or cognitive skills to process the amputation.
Instead of compartmentalizing adoption into
adoptee issues, birth parent issues and adoptive parent issues, we accept this interconnectivity
as the reality of adoption.
Thus, the act of adoption, while seemingly happy for the adoptive parents, can be perceived by the
adoptee as a re-play of her initial abandonment or of being kidnapped.
If it's a matter of safety, such
as drug use, then limit contact to letters or emails, but explain that change to the other party and to the
adoptee.
As I said earlier, even if this was an open adoption in theory, to the
adoptee, it wasn't an open adoption until the last few years..
It means,
as you point out, that things are out in the open and the
adoptee is supported in dealing with what actually comes up.