Groups can pressure, judge, shame and blame people into things that are unhealthy — like
staying in a bad marriage out of fear of being shamed (not to mention communities that are dangerous cults, but that's a different conversation).
But that isn't a reason to
stay in a bad marriage and, guess what, Ms. Graham and Ms. Willet — couples need to decide that for themselves.
Susan Pease Gadoua is the author of the San Francisco Chronicle bestseller Contemplating Divorce: A Step - by - Step Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go, as well as Stronger Day by Day: Reflections for Healing and Rebuilding After Divorce and The Top Ten Misguided Reasons to
Stay in a Bad Marriage.
A lot of people just
stay in bad marriages because they can't figure out the situation.
Is
staying in a bad marriage better than leaving it to be with your true love?
For example, the AARP survey pointed to the fact that men more often decided to
stay in a bad marriage out of fear of losing touch with their children.
Most people don't want to
stay in a bad marriage until the plan is over.
This raises questions about whether or not they should
stay in a bad marriage or if they should stick it out to avoid the horrific divorce process.
Staying in a bad marriage can literally break your heart.
Staying in a bad marriage is no one's idea of fun.
Is
Staying in a Bad Marriage Killing You?
But,
staying in a bad marriage does more than just make you emotionally miserable.
According to science,
staying in a bad marriage can actually kill you.
Not exact matches
Once you live defiantly, you will see that these concepts of
staying in church,
staying in a
marriage and
staying in a job even if they're
bad for you were created precisely to keep you there and maintain stability.
Once you develop an attitude of defiance, you see that these concepts of
staying in church,
staying in a
marriage, and
staying in a job even if they're
bad for you were created to keep you there and maintain social stability.
Despite being terrible at her job and hating everyone, she
stayed in it for 10 years, which is longer than some
bad marriages.
It's called a Parenting
Marriage and more and more couples are turning to this option as a way to «
stay for the kids» without
staying stuck
in a
bad relationship.
Couples
stay stuck
in a
bad marriage for a few reasons.
They would prefer their parents
stay together, even
in a
bad marriage, provided that there is no abuse involved, so that these needs can be fulfilled sufficiently.
People also ask me, «Is it
bad for my children if I
stay in an unhappy
marriage?
One might assume, for example, that unhappy spouses who divorce and those who
stay married are fundamentally two different groups; i.e., that the
marriages that ended
in divorce were much
worse than those that survived.
One might assume, for example, that unhappy spouses who divorce and those who
stay married are fundamentally two different groups; i.e.,
marriages that ended
in divorce were much
worse than those who
stayed married.
I was
in a
bad marriage,
stayed «I thought» for my children and my health suffered terribly.
People also ask me, «Is it
bad for my children if I
stay in an unhappy
marriage?
This 2002 study by University of Chicago sociologist Linda Waite challenged what is termed the «divorce assumption,» that is, «that a person stuck
in a
bad marriage has two choices:
stay married and be miserable or get a divorce and become happier.»
Adding to the confusion is a lot of really
bad advice online including outright lies that
marriage counseling rarely works (
marriage counseling improves 70 % of couples and the other 30 % tend to come
in uncertain if they want to even
stay married.