Turn
Towards Bids for Connection Bids are the building blocks of lasting love.
Since they didn't know how to value their own emotional experiences, they knew even less how to value their partner's, how to use emotion to guide effective problem - solving, or how to turn
towards bids for connection and make repairs when things went off track.
Not exact matches
Turn
Towards Instead of Away State your needs, be aware of bids for connection and respond to (turn towards
Towards Instead of Away State your needs, be aware of
bids for connection and respond to (turn
towardstowards) them.
When we turn
towards our partner's
bids for connection, we make a deposit.
For example, happy couples do have many more «bids for connection» when together, and much more «turn towards» response, and much, much fewer «turn away» - the most negative reacti
For example, happy couples do have many more «
bids for connection» when together, and much more «turn towards» response, and much, much fewer «turn away» - the most negative reacti
for connection» when together, and much more «turn
towards» response, and much, much fewer «turn away» - the most negative reaction.
World - renowned researcher and author Dr. John Gottman says that couples periodically reach out
for their partner's affection, attention, or support, and happy couples turn
towards each other during these
bids for connection.
Gay couples turned
towards their partners»
bids for emotional
connection during sex.
However, Kristin and Jake embrace the notion that in order
for their marriage to thrive, they need to pay attention to each other on a regular basis and intentionally turn
towards each other's
bids for connection.
One of the greatest predictors of your relationship's success is your ability to turn
towards each other, constantly developing your bond by making an effort every day to reach out to your partner and accept their
bids for emotional
connection.
Just as building your Love Maps are a great way to strengthen your friendship system, as we discussed on Monday, making a conscious effort to turn
towards each other's
bids for emotional
connection will strengthen the emotional
connection felt between the two of you.
Now that you are informed about the benefits of turning
towards your partner's
bids for emotional
connection, here are some great ways to put it into practice this weekend:
The concepts of «
bids for connection» and «turning
towards, against, or away» are those of Dr. John Gottman.
A third way to keep your relationship in the Positive Perspective is to engage in what Dr. Gottman calls turning
towards your partner's «
bids»
for emotional
connection.
Turning
towards means actively turning to your partner and replying to their small
bids for emotional
connection that they make throughout the day.
Be aware of
bids for emotional
connection and turn
towards them.
Every time you turn
towards your partner's
bids for emotional
connection, you are making a deposit in what Dr. Gottman calls your Emotional Bank Account.
This particular study directly relates to building an Emotional Bank Account by taking the opportunity to Turn
Towards your partner's
bids for emotional
connection in Sliding Door Moments.
Gottman says there are three ways of responding when someone makes a
Bid for Connection: We can «Turn
Towards,» «Turn Away,» or «Turn Against.»
One of my favorites, Turn
Towards instead of Away is just that; we need to face our partner during
connection and when they present those
bids for connection.
When you turn
towards your partner during their
bid for connection, you're basically saying, «I hear you» and «I see you» and «I understand».