Unhappy couples try to change each other.
Not exact matches
While past generations of
couples have taken the attitude of «grin and bear it» when difficulties have arisen in their relationship, these days most
couples are less willing to tolerate an
unhappy marriage for very long without
trying something, such as books, DVD's, workshops, or
couples» retreats.
Other films from Cannes making their US debut at Telluride include the Russian «Loveless,» directed by Andrey Zvyagintsev, about an
unhappy couple searching for their son, and winner of Cannes» Jury Prize; «A Man of Integrity,» by Mohammad Rasoulof, set in corrupt Iranian society, which won the Grand Prize of the Un Certain Regard section; «The Rider,» by Chloe Zhao, about a badly injured young South Dakotan rodeo rider, which won the top prize, the Art Cinema Award, of the Director's Fortnight; «Tesnota (Closeness),» about a Jewish family forced to
try to ransom their son and his new bride, also in Un Certain Regard, by Kantemir Balagov; and Barbet Schroeder's documentary about a Buddhist monk, «Le venerable W.»
But, for those
couples who are
unhappy and are stuck going in circles
trying to decide what to do with their marriage, it can help provide clarity about where they are at, and allow them to confidently move forward with whatever decision they make.
Gottman decided to answer this question by
trying something very simple: Recording married
couples talking for 15 minutes about a recent conflict that they were having in their relationship, and then carefully scrutinizing these recordings to see how happy and
unhappy couples behaved differently.
If you are feeling stuck, misunderstood, and
unhappy in your relationship, I urge you to
try couples counseling with your partner.