When the author recalls the long gallery
of persons whom, in the course
of this inquiry, he has come to know with the impetuous but temporary
intimacy of the stranger — sharecroppers and plantation owners, workers and employers, merchants and bankers, intellectuals, preachers, organization leaders, political bosses, gangsters, black and white, men and
women, young and old, Southerners and Northerners — the general observation retained is the following: Behind all outward dissimilarities, behind their contradictory valuations, rationalizations, vested interests, group allegiances and animosities, behind
fears and defense constructions, behind the role they play in life and the mask they wear, people are all much alike on a fundamental level And they are all good people.
That has enabled me to actually remain chaste for years because my needs for
intimacy are met through rich relationships with both men and
women, which didn't happen when I was disconnected out
of fear.
Men and
women with commitment issues tend to have a deep
fear of intimacy, and their feelings are borne
of a learned negative opinion
of love and relationships.
While there is nothing to
fear if you are a bisexual
woman, the taboo is still there and you really wouldn't want the world to know what you enjoy in terms
of physical
intimacy.