I can't think of anything good
about divorce as far as the children are concerned.
The key to a successful mediation is using your convictions
about the divorce as motivation to achieve a favorable outcome.
Also most long - married couples say that they really want to stay married and they don't think or talk
about divorce as an option.
When you got married you probably didn't think
about divorce as a contingency plan.
In a recent survey of divorcing couples with children, approximately 30 % of respondents expressed both ambivalence
about the divorce as well as interest in therapeutic services focused on exploring reconciliation.
Far from the narrative that emerged later during their tabloid - fodder separation, that the split was fueled by infidelity, Shnayerson's report says that the couple had little in common and knew it early on — they were talking openly
about divorce as early as 1997, shortly after the birth of their third child, Michaela.
Rather, it's a key step for couples who are on the fence and may be fantasizing
about divorce as an outlet for their anger and frustration.
Do answer all their questions
about your divorce as truthfully as possible, without making the other parent the «heavy.»
Not exact matches
Having a conversation
about what you want if things don't work out
as planned often helps couples have a more reasonable discussion when
divorce hits.
This suggests that the low -
divorce trend in that province is
about to reverse,
as more couples jump to cash out of their family homes — and marriages.
That financier's soon - to - be ex-wife at the time found his diary, which was filled with writings
about encounters with Wood, who was soon - to - be
divorced as well.
This would mean repealing anti-sodomy laws, permitting homosexuals to serve in the military on the same terms
as heterosexuals, including lessons
about homosexuality in public school sex - education programs, and legalizing homosexual marriage and
divorce.
In fact the song is
about a family being split by
divorce, sung
as if by a father to his son.
... This growing
divorce divide means that college - educated married couples are now
about half
as likely to
divorce as their less - educated peers.
I'm also quite capable of debating with him
about whether or not government marriage in New York should allow no - fault
divorce or whether married couples (
as defined by the state!)
CS Lewis never wrote
about gay marriage (
as far
as I know) but his comments on governments making laws
about divorce are applicable to the issue.
You can't find one statistic
about Christians such
as divorce rates, life expectancy, cancer survival rates, infant mortality rates, and so on that suggests any God is doing squat for you people.
As for speaking with a
divorced person or adulterer that lies, believe me, they get called on the carpet too
about their lying ways.
... The Jews (just like the church now) got flippant concerning
divorce... I feel Jesus didn't have to mention homosexuality because the Law was clear to any Jew at that time... Paul had to mention it because he was an apostle to the Gentiles who I think were more prone to homosexuality behavior... I'm though not
as learned
as you... just my thought after 15 years of thinking
about this issue... The church has a sacred duty to all... even gays... we need a unified loving answer to give them... but it must be the truth... because only the truth can set us free...
Oh, and personal dialogs are allowed
as well: Someone discussing their
divorce, their new love, or their child's concerns... where else can you get a dialog and sharing
about such matters?
No one seemed concerned
about the children in modern
divorce, except to argue over parenting responsibilities such
as child - support and visitation rights.
Since these are the things
about which ideas of being were first formed in philosophy, it is important that
as we refine our ideas we not
divorce them from their place of origin.
It would be quite in keeping with the Lukan practice to prefer a version of a saying he found in another source to that of Mark,
as, for example, he prefers the Q version of the teaching
about divorce (Luke 16.18 / / Matt.
He sang light songs
about drunkenness and
divorce, such
as «White Lightning» in which he (in some live concert versions) referred to whiskey
as «Baptist corn squeezing.»
I reiterate,
as I have over and over again, that it is not
about the details of a difficult
divorce, but how questionable actions and statements were lied
about, covered up, and used to develop a smear campaign
about victims, all to protect important people.
Since these features of life are not
about to change,
divorce will remain an intrinsic part of married life, marriage and family are no longer synonymous, and we must aim not so much to prevent
divorce as to prevent
divorce's «negative consequences.»
It is important to remember when Jesus is teaching
about adultery in Matthew chapter 19 that what he is saying is that if someone
divorces for any reason other than adultery that the offending party has only two choices reconcile with their spouse or remain single and live
as a widow the rest of their days.
Jesus gave a clear thought
about what marriage should look like.The one warning He gave was for a man to give his a written notice of
divorce if his wife commits fornication.And the only thing the bible speaks against is when some wears tardy clothes
as a sign of gayism and the bible refutes that tremendiously.
James Q. Wilson agrees that much went radically wrong
about then»
as evident in
divorce, crime, out - of - wedlock births, ineffective schools, and much else» but he thinks the reason is chiefly cultural.
Jesus didn't say anything directly
about polygamy either, yet NT scholars on all sides have recognized that if Jesus regarded remarriage after
divorce as adultery (a form of serial polygamy), on the grounds that it violated the duality of «male and female,» he certainly regarded unions of three or more persons
as adultery (concurrent polygamy or polygamy proper).
However useful GNP may be for short - term planning, it gives false expectations
about the long term, because it regards a national economy
as a self - contained system which can be
divorced from its surroundings.
And when Jesus was quizzed
about divorce on the basis of Deuteronomy 24:1 - 4 (Mark 10:2 - 9), he subordinated that passage
as a concession to hard - heartedness and lifted up the Genesis accounts affirming the indissolubility of the marriage union (Gen. 1:27; 2:24; 5:2)
as the expression of God's will.
This does not make the Bible irrelevant, for what may be most relevant is not a Bible verse
about womanhood or
divorce but Paul's powerful analysis of the self in conflict
as found in Romans 7.
Marriage is rough... period but if you lean on God at all times including the good and the bad then He (God) will get you both through anything in your marriage... TOGETHER... not
divorced as our ME FIRST culture is now all
about.
Jesus» teachings
about marriage,
divorce, and singleness would have been seen
as radical not only by Jews but also by various people outside the Jewish context in the Roman empire.65 He annulled the prevailing custom, which permitted a man to discharge his wife on any silly pretext merely by giving her a bill of
divorce, and, thereby, he restored the indissolubility of marriage
as originally willed by the Creator (Mk.
As you see, Jesus is responding to a question
about divorce, not
about gender binaries.
Decisions had to be made from time to time
as to where or when services of the church would be held; the church needed to be told of the impending visit of an apostle, or of some prophet or teacher from abroad; a question has been raised
as to the good faith of one of these visitors, and there must be some discussion of the point and a decision on it; a fellow Christian from another church is on a journey and needs hospitality; a member of the local congregation planning to visit a church abroad needs a letter of introduction to that church, which someone must be authorized to provide; a serious dispute
about property rights or some other legal matter has arisen between two of the brothers and the church must name someone to help them settle the issue or must in some other way deal with it; a new local magistrate has begun to prosecute Christians for violating the law against unlicensed assembly, and consideration must be given to ways and means of meeting this crisis; charges have been brought against one of the members by another member, and these must be investigated and perhaps some disciplinary action taken; one of the members has died, and the church is called on for some special action in behalf of his family in the emergency; differences of opinion exist in the church on certain questions of morals or belief (such
as marriage and
divorce, or the resurrection), differences which local prophets and teachers are apparently unable to compose, and a letter must be written to the apostle — who will write this letter and what exactly will it say?
I send fan letters
about as often
as I get
divorces, but certainly his vivid and vibrant Best 18 in America (Feb. 15 and 22) deserves three rousing banzais.
His Time interview was even more astonishing,
as Tiger openly answered questions
about his very public
divorce from Elin Nordegren following his sex scandal, their current «more open and honest» relationship
as «best friends,» and his role
as co-parent to their two kids.
And since some of them are now
divorce coaches, I shudder to think
about all the advice — based on one person's unhappy marital dissolution experience — that they're presenting
as «the truth.»
As I'm freshly going through my second
divorce, the number one thing I have learned is that I should have spoken up more when I didn't like her behavior and instead of getting cross
about her having secret friends, I should have raised why those actions were inappropriate.
You said: My comment above on FB was prompted by friends whose kid is SO entirely dependent on his parents to sleep at night, that he is depriving them of their couple time and their desperately needed sleep, and
as a result, they are constantly frustrated, at odds with each other, and left feeling helpless and misunderstood and «joke»
about divorce.
Which is great, because I believe I have a lot to add — being twice
divorced and having spent the better part of the past few years writing
about divorce for various online publications
as well
as my own blog —
as well
as learn.
Cohabitation still isn't
as respected
as marriage is (at least in the States — I'll be writing
about cohabitation elsewhere soon), but if it were, would marriage still matter; single people are still stigmatized,
divorced people are damaged and few of us are relationship anarchists.
As I once wrote, freedom is the Lady Gaga of words for the
divorced; everyone talks
about it because they value it so much.
What's perhaps most disturbing
about the survey is that we still seem to view
divorce as a moral failing, that if you just tried harder you'd be able to do it!
And
as studies have shown, although lower - income women value marriage and have more traditional views
about marriage and
divorce, financial concerns are among the reasons that prevent them from getting hitched.
Instead of wringing our hands
about so - called gray
divorces and seeing those marriages
as failures, perhaps we should consider marriage
as more «till the kids part» than «till death do us part.»
Last week, I had an interesting experience with a Facebook page for
divorced people that I had «liked,» one that says its mission is to «create a place where you can find others to laugh with, to cry with, or to vent to
as well
as get referrals and specific information
about divorce - related issues» and that hopes that «by being part of this community, you will be able to move in and feel supported in your new home.»
As a twice married and
divorced woman, I had to think
about that.