There are so many positives
about having an open adoption.
Not exact matches
I find it fascinating that you can take something as simple as a potato and dependent upon whether it
has been boiled, roasted, deep fried, baked in cheese, sliced, cooked whole, crumbled, burnt, sprinkled in mint, or doused in yogurt — it will
open your eyes to learning
about another culture and their
adoption of traditions throughout their own history.
Throughout her career, Dr. Bliss
has been passionate
about educating the public on best practices in
adoption and the psychology of
open adoption.
Many birthmothers
have mixed feelings
about open adoption.
But going through the
open adoption process and learning
about the challenges she faces
has made you more understanding of her position — and of others who may not
have it as easy as you do.
We talked
about how we
would give our seven nieces and nephews another cousin through
open adoption.
In my experience as an
adoption attorney over the past two decades, I
've found that successful
adoption efforts are more
about open communication than anything else.
And even if you haven't found a match, think
about all of the unexpected things that your
open adoption journey
has taught you, things like humility, patience, empathy, honesty, and respect.
They
've even created a series of videos together where they talk
about their relationship and answers questions
about open adoption.
In thinking
about fears prospective adoptive parents
have about open adoption, probably the most common question I get is, «Later down the line, when she gets her life together, won't she want the baby back?»
I recently
had a chance to catch up with her via Skype and talk
about her relationship with her daughter and her adoptive parents,
about what she wants people to know
about open adoption and birthmothers, and
about her campaign to give birthfathers their own day of recognition.
We
have always been very
open about their
adoption, so much so that when my older son was four he told a sitter that if she wanted kids she could call his birthmom because she could «get a baby for you.
Talking to birthmothers who placed before
adoptions opened up, I
have found that the only thing that they resent
about placing is the not knowing.
It makes me feel more confident
about our future to see a healthy minded grown woman that
has grown up in an
open adoption situation.
Thanks to Michelle, I
have greater insight and feel more confident
about developing a strong
open adoption in the future.
I'm not sure I understand your references to River City and Death to Cons, but if you're asking me what I
would have said in light of this question being asked
about an
open adoption (and I think this is a terrific insight I hadn't noticed before), I
would say something like this:
For adoptive parents this could include what drew you to
open adoption, how you connected with your child's birthparents, and any suggestions you
have for others who are beginning their journey but unsure
about where to go or what to do next.
May 16: How
Open Adoption Changed The Meaning of Motherhood For Me Monica, a birthmother, explains why birthmothers and adoptive mothers have to fight against the stigmas about open adoption and how she and her daughter's adoptive mother have made their own own relationship w
Open Adoption Changed The Meaning of Motherhood For Me Monica, a birthmother, explains why birthmothers and adoptive mothers have to fight against the stigmas about open adoption and how she and her daughter's adoptive mother have made their own own relationsh
Adoption Changed The Meaning of Motherhood For Me Monica, a birthmother, explains why birthmothers and adoptive mothers
have to fight against the stigmas
about open adoption and how she and her daughter's adoptive mother have made their own own relationship w
open adoption and how she and her daughter's adoptive mother have made their own own relationsh
adoption and how she and her daughter's adoptive mother
have made their own own relationship work.
We were so excited to find that the IAC
had a booth to answer questions
about open adoption.
So I thought it might be interesting to find out how they «re using their marketing chops to building their family through
open adoption and
about what advice they
have for others who are going down the same road.
I
have a great
open adoption with both my kids birth parents, but this isn't something we
would openly talk
about like you can with yours.
Recently I
had a chance to connect with Renee to talk
about her decision to place Liam (a.k.a. «Little Man») in an
open adoption, how she stays involved in his life, and what she calls «the business of being a birth mother.»
What are the most important things you
've learned
about yourselves since you started the
open adoption process?
I'm lucky to
have moms like you blogging
about open adoption so that I know where I'm headed in the next several years.
You can find out
about their interests, their family, their home, their thoughts
about parenting and
open adoption, and
about what kind of relationship they want to
have with you as your child grows up.
On the other hand, if you're straight up with your questions
about open adoption and the kind of relationship you
would like to
have with her in the future, a expectant mother may find you easier to talk to than an adoptive family that doesn't
have any of those issues.
After your class, not only was my husband more enthusiastic
about adopting than he
had been before, but we felt armed with the knowledge of what it truly means to be in an
open adoption.
So for me, since
open adoption was the start of my path and now being on the other side with being able to see personal how
adoption has and
has not affected my son, I am very curious
about others experience with
open adoption because I do wonder what
would have been different and
would have been the same
had my son's
adoption not closed when he was so young.
Not only because of what it
has to say
about open adoption relationships and how to navigate them, but because sections of it were written by her daughter's birthmother, Crystal Hass.
Recently I
had the opportunity to speak to Ashley — who
has shared her story and, most recently, here —
about birth mother grief, healing and community - building;
about what expectant mothers need to know before and after relinquishing their baby; and
about how she sees her role as an
open adoption «truth - teller.»
But just in case you haven't
had a chance to read The
Open - Hearted Way To Open Adoption yet, here's a cheat sheet of some of the key passages about navigating an open adoption relations
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adoption relationship.
Even though
open adoption means
having two mothers, it's not
about co-parenting.
What
about other adoptive parents and birth parents — what do they need to know to
have a successful
open adoption?
As I said in my video
having an
open adoption is something special because there is no wondering
about who your biology is.
As an adoptee in the closed era of
adoption, I
've always listened intently when birthparents talk
about their experiences via
open adoption.
Recently I
had a chance to ask the self - described «
open adoption de-freakifier»
about her book,
about how she and Crystal set boundaries (literary and otherwise), and
about the joys of being Number Two.
But that hasn't affected her own positive feelings
about open adoption or her placement.
What
has helped you to talk openly and honestly
about open adoption?
And who knows, it could get us thinking
about open adoption in ways we might not
have considered before.
The other day I asked for your thoughts
about open adoption — what you like
about it, what you don't like, and how you
would improve the process.
If you're not sure whether the family you select is right for you or you
have questions
about them,
open adoption gives you the opportunity to contact them directly and get your questions answered.
But once you find out a little more
about it, you may surprised by what
open adoption has to offer and how different it is from what you may
have thought.
Over the last 15 + years that we
've helped hopeful adoptive parents build their families through
open adoption, we
've been asked just
about every question you can imagine.
I
have an
open adoption with my birth mother, but know next to nothing
about my birth father.
O Solo Mama, a mom via international
adoption,
has some questions
about open adoption.
The movement to
have OBCs
opened in all states
has grown from adoptees wanting access to all details
about their birth and
adoption —
about their histories.
I
have never thought
about open adoption having degrees before.
As we
have seen for years, education
about open adoption tends to shine a light into the darkness of misunderstandings.
Crystal Hass
has taught
about open adoption with Lori Holden at Colorado Free University and at
adoption agencies.
Deb & Corey Omey were
open with their families
about the agency, their profile, and the
adoption process, but were clear that only a few people
would be notified when they entered
adoption planning, so that they could put all of their focus on building the relationship with birthparents at that time, without the obligation to keep everyone updated.