Talking
badly about the other parent with children, especially children at this age will make things complicated for them, but this should never be done at any age.
Contrary to many parents belief supervised visitation is not awarded because of one parent's subjective
feelings about the other parent's parenting skills.
Keeping secrets from your partner, lying,
complaining about the other parent with your child, or agreeing to behavior that the other parent would never allow, is an unhealthy dynamic.
This includes working together to create a new normal, containing criticisms and
complaints about the other parent, and focusing on the children's vulnerability and need to feel loved and safe.
If your child hears you express
doubts about the other parent, it can have a detrimental impact on them emotionally because they will feel that they are in the middle.
It can be just as harmful to adult children of divorce to hear one parent say negative things
about the other parent as it is for young children.
The reassurance of one parent can only go so far in making a child feel
secure about the other parent's continued love and presence in their lives.
It is not hard to imagine an angry parent making off - hand comments and making
gestures about the other parent in the presence of the child, without consciously being aware of it.
And, the walls have ears when children are in the home and there may be no «safe place» for the exhausted parent to blow off
steam about the other parent.
Some courts may ask you for 3 positive
comments about the other parent or 3 steps you are taking to protect the child from absorbing your negative emotions toward the other parent.
Normal change in behavior means showing sympathy, offering help, expressing their feelings on the situation and
talking about the other parent more often.
If your child hears you express
doubts about the other parent, it can have a detrimental impact on them emotionally because they will feel that they are in the middle.