If corporate worship is replaced by personal worship; if corporate Biblical teaching is replaced by regular personal Bible reading, mediation, and God - craving; and, if church fellowship is replaced by fellowship in general, I believe that one's faith can be strengthened by a stepping away from church — especially stepping away from a
spiritually abusive church.
I hope we learn that reconciling and redeeming
abusive church leaders begins with reconciling and redeeming the church itself.
Many are reminded of
abusive church members who have used love as coercive leverage to garner control and power.
3) To
put abusive churches on notice that they will be called out and they can not do business as usual.
@Steve: Have you talked to your pastor yet to confess your sin of constantly flaunting your blessedly perfect church in front of groups of people — mostly strangers to you — who've been hurt by their experiences in deceitful, toxic, dysfunctional, and / or spiritually -
abusive churches?
My observation reflects my history with
an abusive church where public displays of spirituality were often used as a means of control and as such my comment was perfectly valid.
It's true that there are
abusive churches out there, but a person has to walk away.
The feeling of utter despair, failure and loss of everything you've ever known, leads to depression and / or suicide for those that try to extract themselves from
an abusive church system.
While I would agree that there is little grey area in choosing whether to support victims or abusers, using a black / white dichotomy for victims and abusers is too simplistic for the dynamics of dysfunctional or
abusive churches.
«Tips for Recovering from a Spiritually
Abusive Church» and «Tips for «Moving On» from an abusive church experience» by Elizabeth Esther
However, when lay people remain in
an abusive church situation where they have the chuck wagon power the chains are psychological rather than financial.
Do they really want to hear about my history at
an abusive church?
4) To allow other people who've experienced
abusive church to gain from our process, so they can find some healing and restoration.
2) To give courage to those victims who need to leave
those abusive churches.
5) If you lived at
an abusive church for a long, you've been forced to live in silence.
1) As someone who lived in
an abusive church for fifteen years, it would have been helpful to hear these kinds of stories back a long time ago.
Years ago I left
an abusive Church.
We as Christians need to grab hold of The Truth and show it to those who have not got it, by living it and witnessing, not only to other religious people but to other Christians who have lost their way, either through their own ides or
an abusive Church that has bullied them into towing their line.