What a securely attached child - OR ADULT - looks like: competent, self - confident, resilient, cheerful much of the time, anticipating people's needs (not from a co-dependent place), empathic, humorous, playful, tries harder in the face of adversity; not vulnerable to approach by strangers because won't go to strangers (as adult, out - going without being foolhardy), good self - esteem,
achieving, able to use all mental, physical, emotional resources fully, responsive, affectionate, able to make deep commitments as appropriate, able to be self - disclosing as appropriate, able to be available emotionally as appropriate, able to interact well with others at school and in jobs / careers, likely to be
more physically healthy throughout life, self - responsible, giving from a «good heart» place of compassion, has true
autonomy, no co-dependent self, because of well developed internal modulation system, less likely to turn to external «devices» (addictions) to modulate affect
As the first city in the country to offer this ground - breaking opportunity to successful district schools, The Mind Trust could not be
more excited to partner with great schools to support them in
achieving increased
autonomy to protect the fidelity of their successful educational models.
When we are stressed out, instead of exercising
autonomy to
achieve actualization or happiness — to become «
more ourselves» — we end up in self - imposed alienation.