But the road to family harmony can be smoother, they say, if couples abide by general rules, like
acknowledging feelings of loss, abandonment and anger; avoiding bad - mouthing the other parent or stepparent; and not expecting too much too soon.
However, over time many open up to
acknowledge feelings of loss, powerlessness, bewilderment, disbelief, despair, futility, humiliation, bitterness, loneliness, emptiness, grief, jealousy, inadequacy, and more.
As with anger, it often helps to discuss and
acknowledge these feelings of loss.
Not exact matches
What makes this novel approach perfection — and two comments on the book jacket actually employ the word — is the way Ishiguro leads the reader into Stevens's life through his own words, enabling us to
feel his pride in being a «great» butler and at the same time experience the pain
of personal
loss which he is utterly unable to
acknowledge.
Maybe it's because we are a bit further from our
loss, a little less desperate to have it
acknowledged, more quietly accepting
of our pain, or that progress
feels too slow and you find yourself wondering «why didn't this happen before my baby died» or perhaps you are crushed by the overwhelming responsibility an awareness week gives you.
While blaming oneself doesn't make intellectual sense, the need to
acknowledge all
of the
feelings that flow from grieving pregnancy
loss is essential.
Validation theory is described by Naomi Feil as «accepting and validating the
feelings of the demented person; to
acknowledge their reminiscences,
losses, and the human needs that underlie their behaviors without trying to insert or force new insights.
Part
of this acknowledgement is to also
acknowledge that the effects
of such removal are still being
felt today - from those who survived it, and those who are survived by their parents whose culture is fragmented by the
loss of language and family.
The adoptee's
loss must be
acknowledged, validated, and worked through, so that she can gain a new attitude toward it and begin to gain a sense
of Self (who she is), self - esteem (how she
feels about herself), and self - worth (how she believes she is valued by others).
After honestly
acknowledging our children might
feel loss and trauma, we learned from copious amounts
of research (including seeking help from qualified professionals, asking other parents we knew who might have faced the same situations, researching online, reading books, reading, talking to, and listening to adoptees, attending therapeutic parenting classes, and webinars), and 3.
A therapeutic relationship
acknowledges the deepest meanings in our lives and examines our most personal emotions
of love, loneliness,
loss, belonging, alienation, grief, and yearning behind all
of our
feelings both private and public.