May 29: My Two Open Adoptions In this post, Mary Pettice,
an adoptee in a closed adoption, explains why she opened it up and eventually went on to pursue an open placement of her own.
/ / Sage,
adoptee in a closed adoption and birth mother in an open adoption
For his senior project at BYU - Idaho, Owen created a film series on open adoption from all sides of the adoption triad — adoptive parents, a birth mom in her 20's who is also
an adoptee in a closed adoption, and a young adoptee who has always had open adoption relationships.
As to the latter, I will say that as an adult
adoptee in a closed adoption I thought that the questions spoke volumes about a specific closed adoption situation and the adoptee's need to come to an understanding about it more than they spoke about the differences necessarily between closed and open adoptions or about open adoption itself.
Not exact matches
As an
adoptee in the
closed era of
adoption, I've always listened intently when birthparents talk about their experiences via open
adoption.
We assembled mosaic tiles from first parents, from adoptive and adopting parents, from adult
adoptees, from
adoption professionals, from those
in international, foster, domestic open and
closed adoptions, from those who became parents via donor egg, sperm or embryos —
in essence, we explore openness
in situations
in which a child is being raised by someone who is not genetically connected to him or her.
Usually, the reasons for sealing records and carrying out
closed adoptions is said to be to «protect» the
adoptee and adoptive parents from disruption by the natural parents and
in turn, to allow natural parents to make a new life.
Closed adoption has been increasingly criticized
in recent years as being unfair to both the
adoptee and his or her birth parents.
And unfortunately, this set the stage for the distress of many adult
adoptees who, being adopted
in the
closed adoption network of the last century, have worked diligently to sort out their own personal identities.
I wrote a post a while back attempting to explain that all
adoptees have (or had) birthparents, whether they came from an orphanage
in Russia or are
in closed adoptions locally.
Marikathryn has a lifetime of
adoption experience as an
adoptee through
closed adoption and as a birthmother who placed a child through open
adoption in 1993.