While I am absolutely
not against divorce, I like to explore alternatives that might be available for couples who are struggling as I once was.
And even without existential considerations of happiness, very practical considerations argue
against divorce if at all possible.
Your family may not be perfect but at least you've never had to pretend to be married to your ex because your adopted son's birth mom is
super against divorce!
But those conversations will help prevent future conflict and therefore immunize your
marriage against divorce down the road.
They might be further upset to read how Jane Schaberg, professor of religious studies at the University of Detroit Mercy, interprets Christ's
injunction against divorce as an open invitation for men to beat their wives; «Interpreted in this rigid fashion,» she writes, «this prohibition bas... condemned women and men to the alternative of an intolerable bondage or a life of isolation and sexual repression.»
Beliefs: going into a marriage with husband and wife holding a strong personal conviction that marriage is for life
protects against divorce.
If your spouse doesn't officially
defend against your divorce complaint, either by objecting to its grounds or to your requests for custody, support and property distribution, New York law allows you to proceed with the divorce anyway by filing for default.
Still, Jay - Z and Beyoncé may offer hope to those who are
against divorce for personal or religious reasons, or who truly are regretful and want to make their marriage better, or who have young children and fear what divorce may do to them.
With buzz about #tomkat & #scientology, interesting to note there's no
doctrine against divorce; founder L. Ron Hubbard married 3 times
The church officially stood
firm against divorce, yet between 1900 and 1970 the divorce rate in the U.S. increased by 900 per cent.
The bible speaks out
strongly against divorce yet I'm not hearing any calls to round up divorcees and place them behind electrified fences.
In 1 Corinthians Paul simply assumes that a certain kind of behaviour is unquestionably unacceptable, while in the same letter making very careful moral distinctions between matters covered by a «word of the Lord» (for
example against divorce), matters he himself advises are best (keeping an unbelieving wife), and matters intrinsically indifferent where we must be governed by respect for the consciences of others (eating butcher's meat which may have come from offerings to idols).
Other, more general facets of good parenting can also
buffer against divorce - related difficulties in children.
Surprisingly, the traditional moral
taboo against divorce had little effect on holding together troubled marriages.
Researchers led by evolutionary biologist Alexandre Courtiol of the Institute for Advanced Study Berlin picked this time period because agriculture was well established by then and there were strict
rules against divorce and extramarital affairs.
This provision is often included to protect assets for the
children against divorce, bankruptcy, spend - thriftiness or some sort of disability, but now if the money goes to a Discretionary Trust then the new residence Nil Rate Band can't be used.
In a contested divorce one spouse will be the plaintiff — the spouse that initiates the divorce and states legal grounds for doing so while the other will be the defendant — the spouse that has the option to either agree or defend
against the divorce court.
-- Diane Medved, Ph.D., author of The
Case Against Divorce and coauthor of The American Family: Discovering Values That Make Us Strong
Interviewed by Sandra G. Boodman of an article entitled «Rules of Engagement: Before Saying «I Do,» Many Couples Are Seeking Help in Resolving Inevitable Conflicts — to Better Their
Odds Against Divorce,» which appeared in The Washington Post on February 28, 2006, p. HE01.
If Jesus allowed for breaking the honored Sabbath laws so as to provide for healing or gleaning, though the ancient laws forbade these on the sacred day, would he not also allow for a suspension of the
proscription against divorce if such were to liberate a person from the bondage of an intolerable marriage?
Another great way to help immunize your
marriage against divorce is to identify and address your differing expectations before the wedding.
For example: The marriage would be valid in canon law if clandestine; thus the canon - law
prohibition against divorce would take hold.
While assets solidify ties between spouses and
protect against divorce, debt puts a strain on all marriages, whether they have high or low incomes.
While I'm certainly
not against divorce — especially since I've done it twice — it should only be considered if you've exhausted all other ways to keep your marriage together, especially if you have kids.
Theologically, all of us Christians must wonder why the only couples legally living under Jesus» proscription
against divorce are same - sex couples.