The family's fundamental contributions to helping
the alcoholic accept help from AA or any other treatment resource consist of releasing him, as described previously, and of accepting the sickness conception themselves.
Not exact matches
It does this by keeping the initiative with him throughout the process, by making him feel
accepted in a group, by respecting his rights as an adult to think and do what he himself wants to (including getting drunk), and by giving him a sense of unique usefulness in
helping other
alcoholics.
Such short - term therapy aims not at deep underlying problems, but at
helping the person do things that will improve his chances of achieving productive sobriety — things such as
accepting the fact that he is an
alcoholic, learning how to face and handle his fears and resentments constructively, changing his ways of relating so that the guilt - isolation - anger spiral is not triggered so often.
Subsumed under this goal are four operational objectives which may be seen as overlapping stages of treatment:
Helping the
alcoholic (a) to
accept the fact that his drinking is a problem with which he needs
help; (b) to obtain, medical treatment; (c) to interrupt the addictive cycle and keep it interrupted by learning to avoid the first drink; (d) to achieve a re-synthesis of his life without alcohol.
Looking more closely at the first of these categories, it is well for the clergyman to remember that many
alcoholics are in serious physical condition by the time they are ready to
accept help.
Any counselor will save himself a lot of frustration if he remembers this, rather than assuming that the
alcoholic could
accept help if he really wanted to.
Thinking perhaps of how they once condemned
alcoholics instead of trying to
accept and
help them, they have become open to discussions and not infrequently have invited homosexual persons to speak.
When he
accepts this point of view he is in a position to receive
help from other
alcoholics and from the Higher Power — God (Norman Vincent Peale, The Power of Positive Thinking [New York: Prentice - Hall, Inc., 1952], p. 230; bold face added).
In dealing with the resistant
alcoholic, it is essential for the counselor to
accept the person's right not to
accept help.
Working to
help open local hospitals to
accept alcoholics as any other sick person is an important form of community outreach.
The recognition by the
helping person that he has a basic kinship with the
alcoholic, that he is not better but only luckier that his symptoms are different,
helps him to
accept the
alcoholic without condescension.
The danger is that the counselor will use it to avoid his responsibility which is to discover, stimulate, and mobilize the
alcoholic's latent motivation toward
accepting help.
The last of these levels is particularly important because it will deal with the problem of why the
alcoholic is usually unable to
accept help early in the development of his sickness.
In some cases, the pastor's acceptance of the
alcoholic's right and freedom not to
accept help actually is a dynamic factor in enabling the
alcoholic to
accept help.
But, at the same time, a church should be engaged in some one experimental approach by which it seeks to develop (1) ways of bringing a unique service to the
helping o ~
alcoholics and their families, and / or (2) new ways of reaching and motivating hidden
alcoholics to
accept help.