A small town father tries to care for his young son and
alcoholic wife.
The film also practically wastes Julianna Margulies as Allan's possibly
alcoholic wife Ruth and there is a subplot about Charlotte Hope's Becky being attracted to Allan that is never heard from again.
He leaves
his alcoholic wife and realizes his dream of opening a restaurant in Helsinki.
Felt's personal life is also a bore, including Diane Lane in a thankless role as
his alcoholic wife distraught over Felt being passed over as the new FBI director.
Cooper is to make a remarkable intervention in the lives of a dysfunctional local family, whose appallingly inadequate paterfamilias is Ansel (Thomas Haden Church), a welder of low ambition and low IQ, acrimoniously divorced from
his alcoholic wife, and now living with his dubiously loyal girlfriend Sharla (Gina Gershon), who has the unfortunate habit of answering the door naked from the waist down.
Not exact matches
He said he'd tried to reach out to Emma O'Reilly, a former team masseuse he called a prostitute and
alcoholic after she suggested he used banned substances, and former best friend Frankie Andreu and his
wife, Betsy.
As a pastor I've been getting help for years, from a psychiatrist, from a clinical pastoral course I took years ago, from small groups over the years, from dear friends who are honest enough to speak into my life, from my medical doctor, from the elders in my church, from my
wife (mostly) from an adult children for
alcoholics group I started only because there was nothing in place in my community.
The
wife of a recovering
alcoholic said, «We didn't expect to get reconnected with a higher Power and to rejoin the human race as a result of Ben's alcoholism, but that's just what happened to us in AA and Al - Anon.»
In the same direction, short - term marriage counseling can be useful in assisting the
alcoholic and his
wife to adjust to the demands of sobriety and to make their relationship more mutually satisfying and fulfilling.
I think he pretended to be the
wife of an
alcoholic in one of the chapters, and he definitely lied about his past.
But what if the only reason that person became
alcoholic is because all in the same month, he lost his job, his
wife died in a car accident, his son fell off a cliff and broke his neck, and his house burned to the ground?
Fitzgerald, an
alcoholic, died of a heart attack in 1940, with his mistress nearby; his
wife, the emotionally troubled Zelda, long confined to an asylum, followed eight years later, the victim of a terrible fire.
The
wife - motivated
alcoholic is familiar to most pastors.
Like many other things in counseling, shifting the initiative from the
wife to the
alcoholic is usually easier said than done.
Jellinek once told of discussing an
alcoholic's relationship with his
wife and of doing so, not in terms of «your
wife,» but in terms of his relation with his own
wife.
The
alcoholic's psychic economy often depends on perceiving his
wife as a mother figure.
There is little doubt that some
wives find neurotic satisfactions in being married to weak, dependent, drinking
alcoholics.
Let us assume that a particular
wife does have self - punishing and controlling tendencies which contribute to her mothering behavior with the
alcoholic.
^ New Primer on Alcoholism by Marty Mann, in a chapter on «What to Do About an
Alcoholic,» has sections entitled «If You Are the
Wife of an
Alcoholic» (206 - 13), «If You Are the Husband of an
Alcoholic» (213 - 17), «If You Are the Son or Daughter» (217 - 19), «If You Are a Friend» (219 - 21), and «If You Are the Employer» (221 - 24).
Since there are at least four times as many
wives as husbands of
alcoholics, the words «she» and «
wife» will be used generally throughout this discussion.
Here are some implications of this approach, by way of summary: (1) Focusing on why the
wife married an
alcoholic or a potential
alcoholic is definitely contraindicated.
The Big Book of AA recommends to
wives of still - drinking
alcoholics:
When we recall the variety of types of relationships represented by those close to
alcoholics who have come — in my case for instance this includes a husband,
wife, daughter, son, mother, father, fiancée, nephew, sister - in - law, neighbor, intimate friend — we realize that this estimate may not be far from accurate.
When an
alcoholic understands that his
wife means business about calling the police or taking other direct action, he will usually desist (unless he is psychotic or has a severe character disorder).
Fellow Al - Anon members give massive emotional support to the
wife during the lonesome, dreary days when the
alcoholic refuses help.
The book
Alcoholics Anonymous contains an example, written by the
wives of early members, of how a
wife might avoid overprotecting the
alcoholic:
When the
alcoholic's or problem drinker's
wife comes to the minister, his first job is to help her and through her, the children.
One study showed that when marital bonds are dissolved by death or divorce, the
wives of
alcoholics frequently marry another
alcoholic.
Some
wives of
alcoholics hold tenaciously to their masochistic, martyrish, controlling postures.
This surrender invariably produces beneficial results in the lives of the
wife and children, insulating them emotionally from much of the destructiveness resulting from the
alcoholic's drinking.
In the chapter «To
Wives» in the original edition of the Big Book, the wives of the first hundred AA's wrote to the wives of other alcoholics: «If God can solve the age - old riddle of alcoholism, he can solve your problem, too.&r
Wives» in the original edition of the Big Book, the
wives of the first hundred AA's wrote to the wives of other alcoholics: «If God can solve the age - old riddle of alcoholism, he can solve your problem, too.&r
wives of the first hundred AA's wrote to the
wives of other alcoholics: «If God can solve the age - old riddle of alcoholism, he can solve your problem, too.&r
wives of other
alcoholics: «If God can solve the age - old riddle of alcoholism, he can solve your problem, too.»
S. Futterman, «Personality Trends in «
Wives of
Alcoholics,» Journal of Psychiatric Social Work, XXIII (1953), 37 - 41; T. Whalen, «
Wives of
Alcoholics.
The message of this fictional fragment — that behind the
alcoholic is a
wife who subtly «drives him to drink» — is a common theme in the folklore of our culture.
As suggested in Chapter 9, the most salutary thing the
wife of a drinking
alcoholic can do is to «release» him.
There are tremendous differences among
alcoholics, their
wives, and their marriages.
I recall one case where separation from the
alcoholic husband was clearly indicated in order to protect both the
wife and the children from physical and emotional harm.
It is possible for the minister unwittingly to block rather than facilitate the
wife's release of the
alcoholic.
At the close of the first interview, the educational phase of the counseling can be expedited by lending the
wife one of the books or pamphlets listed earlier, or a copy of
Alcoholics Anonymous.
In such cases, the pastor's greatest service is to help the
wife discover the specific ways in which she is coddling the
alcoholic, often without realizing it.
If involvement in AA, Al - Anon, and the church program do not suffice in helping the
alcoholic and his
wife make the marital adjustments which will undergird productive family life, the pastor should help them obtain marriage counseling.
For a description of one approach to group marriage counseling see Genevieve Burton, «Group Counseling with
Alcoholics and Their Nonalcoholic
Wives,» Marriage and Family Living, XXIV (February, 1962).
One of the Yale ministers told of helping to sobriety an
alcoholic whom he had never had an opportunity to see, by helping the
wife to change her attitudes toward him.
Verlaine himself happened to be about as cursed as they come:
alcoholic,
wife beater, child abuser, jailbird, syphilitic, down - and - outer.
Even when rehabilitation is most successful there are the strains of accepting the
alcoholic as he experiments with new patterns of relating to his
wife and children.
It does sadden me because it appears that the Pope is either playing politics or he's comprimising with the wicked the way a co-dependant
wife would try to bargain with her
alcoholic husband.
He eventually became an abusive
alcoholic, feared by his mother,
wife and kids.
How about a marriage that continues only because the
wife is too afraid to leave her abusive
alcoholic husband?
(It took only two responses before someone asked Coldair if her
wife was an
alcoholic.)
His ex
wife is a bi - polar /
alcoholic / drug addict who refuses to see her kids most of the time.
But Prophet Owusu Bempah defended his
wife saying that she has never tasted anything
alcoholic not to talk of akpeteshie because she hates it.