Of all the stories I come across, while each may have different nuances all in all,
alienated parents report the same problems.
And, while studies indicate that an adjustment phase is normal (about one year) many
alienated parents report five, ten, or more years after a divorce that their child rejects them, does not like them, is defiant etc..
Not exact matches
Getting consent from the other
parent to participate in a 211
report is likely impossible if one is the
alienated parent.
In one Parental Alienation study (and there are many) conducted by Amy Baker of adults who
reported being
alienated as children, the disrupted
parent - child relationship lasted for at least six years in all cases and continued for more than 22 years for half the sample.
In his book Parental Alienation, Dr. Darnall presents «specific techniques for recognizing and reversing the effects of alienation including a self -
report inventory to help
parents assess their own
alienating behavior and exercises to help them understand and modify it.»
The majority of research on this topic has surveyed young adults (e.g., children) who
report having been
alienated from one
parent by another.
For example, in a survey of
parents who are targets of alienation, Baker and Darnell4 found that targeted
parents reported that alienators interfered with
parenting time (e.g., scheduled appointments or frequently called during the other
parent's
parenting time), interfered with contact with the children (e.g., intercepted phone messages or email), interfered with symbolic contact like gift giving (e.g., threw away gifts or sent them back), did not inform them about important information (e.g., school activities, doctor appointments), threatened to take children away from the them, and formed unhealthy alliances with the children such as having had their children spy and
report back information to the
alienating parent, or sending cell phones with children to call the
alienating parent from the target
parent's home.
Although, no findings were made by the court in connection with the evidence of Dr. Cyr, his conclusions were summa - rized in his
report as follows: «It is our finding that both daughters have been
alienated to their father, the oldest more strongly and that both
parents played an active role in this endeavour.
As
reported by adult children of divorce, the tactics of
alienating parents are tantamount to extreme psychological maltreatment of children, including spurning, terrorizing, isolating, corrupting or exploiting, and denying emotional responsiveness (Baker, 2010).
If there are
reports of child abuse as the cause of the child's
alienated behavior, the judge may make a protective order restraining contact with the «rejected»
parent, such as a temporary order for supervised visitation.
Alienated children typically have conflicted or distant relationships with the alienating parent also, and are at high risk of becoming alienated from their own children; Baker reports that fully half of the respondents in her study of adult children who had experienced alienation as children were alienated from their own
Alienated children typically have conflicted or distant relationships with the
alienating parent also, and are at high risk of becoming
alienated from their own children; Baker reports that fully half of the respondents in her study of adult children who had experienced alienation as children were alienated from their own
alienated from their own children; Baker
reports that fully half of the respondents in her study of adult children who had experienced alienation as children were
alienated from their own
alienated from their own children.
Amabile concluded in the
report that Z.B.D. was exhibiting signs of alienation from D.T. Amabile explained that alienation is the programming of a child by the
alienating parent, in this case respondent, to believe that one
parent is good and the other
parent is bad with the goal that the child completely reject the other
parent.»
The agency's new regime will offer
alienating parents an opportunity to change their behaviour using therapy, but threatens to remove custody from those who fail, with the possibility of permanent denial of access in extreme cases, the article
reports
In working with child custody cases mental health professionals often
report clear evidence that an
alienating parent is deliberately and knowingly manipulating the child.
When the
report comes back and if it shows the mother was complicit in
alienating the child from me — the
report will have recommendations on how to fix it including reducing
parenting time for the offender, changing custody or removing all contact for the
alienating parent.....
You might be a distressed and an
alienated parent if you
report these events but are informed, «emotional abuse is hard to prove.»
You might be an
alienated parent if your seven - year old
reports, «I know the law; just wait till I am of age; I will tell the judge where I want to live.
They
report that a few
parents are not aware of his or her
alienating behavior.
As Dr. Amy Baker
reported, «
alienating parents did not respect the court orders, the attorneys were not interested in or able to force the
alienating parent into compliance.
Drozod & Olesen
report that the
parent's
alienating behavior may be from personal history and psychopathology.
In my case it is the alleged
alienated parent who has made comments to the children such as you are a bad seed and going to jail, curse at the children, has had incidents with the children which were
reported to Social Services by their therapists.
Results: About 80 % of the sample
reported some exposure to parental
alienating behaviors; about 65 — 70 % of the sample has perceived non-optimal
parenting by mother and by father; individuals who experienced affectionless control (low care and high overprotection)
reported significantly higher exposure to parental loyalty conflict behaviors.
While most
parents report being
alienated or estranged after a divorce, there are also
parents that no longer have contact with their children and the couple is together.