If Christians fill their social media posts with blame and
anger — or perhaps just as bad, if we stay silent on this critical issue, how are we following
in the footsteps of Jesus, who dealt with social injustice
in constructive ways?
There are several goals
in couples therapy: 1) understand how prior relationships provide the framework for how adults view self and partner
in close relationships, and and how relationship patterns («the dance») occur; 2) create a secure relationship where partners are emotionally available, genuinely involved and responsive
in a sensitive and caring
way; 3) establish trust and a sense of safety and comfort, especially during difficult times and distressing emotions («fight fair»), 4) change the dance — learn
constructive communication and conflict - management skills so that partners respond to one another's needs and emotions with empathy, understanding and support, rather than with
anger, rejection or withdrawal; 5) experience a secure relationship with the therapist, who models attunement, support, self control, patience and appropriate boundaries.
As a result, couples may be less - able to resolve their disagreements
in constructive ways, and instead engage
in more destructive behaviors such as avoidance or heightened displays of
anger (Cummings & Davies, 2010).