It's common for
parents get
angry with their kids once in a while, but if there's yelling, punishing, and
threatening too much of the time, a kid can start feeling really bad about himself or herself.
Young hypothesized that four schema modes are central to BPD: the abandoned child mode (the present author suggests to label it the abused and abandoned child); the
angry / impulsive child mode; the punitive
parent mode, and the detached protector mode... The abused and abandoned child mode denotes the desperate state the patient may be in related to (
threatened) abandonment and abuse the patient has experienced as a child.