Although attachment - based
approaches like Emotionally Focused Therapy don't use the term commitment as a central concept, they emphasize how secure attachment creates the possibility of enduring bonds of connection.
Not exact matches
Distance yourself from them
emotionally and
approach your interactions
like they're a science project (or you're their shrink, if you prefer the analogy).
What a securely attached child - OR ADULT - looks
like: competent, self - confident, resilient, cheerful much of the time, anticipating people's needs (not from a co-dependent place), empathic, humorous, playful, tries harder in the face of adversity; not vulnerable to
approach by strangers because won't go to strangers (as adult, out - going without being foolhardy), good self - esteem, achieving, able to use all mental, physical, emotional resources fully, responsive, affectionate, able to make deep commitments as appropriate, able to be self - disclosing as appropriate, able to be available
emotionally as appropriate, able to interact well with others at school and in jobs / careers, likely to be more physically healthy throughout life, self - responsible, giving from a «good heart» place of compassion, has true autonomy, no co-dependent self, because of well developed internal modulation system, less likely to turn to external «devices» (addictions) to modulate affect
While it's perfectly normal to have had past relationships that affect how you
approach new love, all too often the
emotionally unavailable man or woman will proudly wear their past
like a type of intimacy - repelling armour that prevents anyone getting closer — even those they've been seeing for a while.5
Field of Lost Shoes doesn't tread any particularly new ground, but it certainly treads over very solid ground and Wiedmann has painted on a particularly grand canvas, writing
emotionally rich music that is very easy to
like and will surely prove very popular amongst those people who
like the no - holds - barred - when - it - comes - to - emotions
approach of 1990s John Barry or James Horner (and who are willing to give this score a chance).
That
approach eventually filtered into television, with high - school dramas
like Winnie Holzman's My So - Called Life becoming the standard - bearer for
emotionally mature teen storytelling.
This has resonances with the
approach advocated by Crittenden (1992) and Howe et al. (1999; p. 278), who suggest that «practitioners should manage and plan their interventions in some broad developmental order,» beginning with
emotionally supportive interventions
like counselling, before considering, for example, behavioural techniques.
If you are looking for concrete directions on what you can improve or change, using an evidenced based therapeutic
approach like the Gottman Method or
Emotionally Focused Therapy can provide practice tips and techniques to utilize with your partner and help your marriage.
Any dispute resolution process for families in conflict that adopts a problem - solving
approach (such as divorce mediation and collaborative divorce), as opposed to an adversarial, competitive
approach like litigation, understands that people (especially people who are or were
emotionally connected to one another) do not negotiate solely from a place of intellectual rationalism.
At Estes Therapy, we utilize a variety of
approaches including research - based methods
like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).
John Amodeo's brilliantly written, incisive, and heart - centered book provides a multi-layered in - depth journey demonstrating why we need both the spiritual teachings on mindfulness along with Western
approaches,
like Focusing and
Emotionally Focused Therapy, to truly live an awakened, embodied life of sacred intimacy within oneself, relationships, and life itself!