Have you ever noticed that if you're mad about one thing, it leads to
arguments with your partner about something completely different?
Not exact matches
Most of our frustrations and resentments
with our
partners stem from something other than what the actual
argument is
about - in the case of the study - weight.
Arguments can come
about if the
partner with the child is unable to make a date because it is a school night or no babysitter is available.
When all you care
about is winning an
argument you will find yourself in a power struggle
with your
partner, says psychologist Margaret Paul in her article, «7 Ways To Improve Your Relationship.»
Intimacy: Couples come
with issues like low sexual desire,
arguments about (in) frequency, one
partner initiating more than the other, boredom and an overall lack of passion.
When couples argue, the
arguments are usually a kind of protest from one
partner about not feeling connected, not trusting, or not feeling safe or secure
with the other
partner.
You'll likely learn so many great things
about how to approach communication,
arguments, and interactions
with your
partner by participating in therapy.
Your pattern might be: I'm angry
with my
partner for (fill in this blank
with something like, I'm feeling ignored in the relationship), so I'm going to pick a fight
about (fill in the blank here
with something completely unrelated, such as not putting the laundry in the dryer), your
partner engages in this unrelated
argument, and you take this as an opportunity to fight
about the laundry, but also throw in a piece
about feeling ignored.
One important element of managing conflict is knowing what you and your
partner are comfortable
with sharing
about your
arguments.
It's easy to let the grind of everyday life get to you and allow you to be drawn into silly
arguments with your
partner and trivial squabbles
about unimportant things.
I had a slight
argument with my
partner last night
about my wanting a dog... and his refusal to agree.