Mental health experts describe the relational trauma
as an attachment injury, that occurs when a person violates the expectation of his partner to get comfort and care in times of distress or danger.
Not exact matches
Attachment theory also explains unhealthy development, as insecurely attached mourn lost attachments (think about someone who is legally married but has been emotionally divorced for a long time), engage in inconsistent attachment behaviors (think attack and defend, or pursue and distance patterns), suffer ongoing attachment injury (ongoing negative sentiment override), may experience attachment panic (maintain physical and emotional control over their partners), or maintain multiple attachments for fear of losing or being swallowed by one (who have
Attachment theory also explains unhealthy development,
as insecurely attached mourn lost
attachments (think about someone who is legally married but has been emotionally divorced for a long time), engage in inconsistent
attachment behaviors (think attack and defend, or pursue and distance patterns), suffer ongoing attachment injury (ongoing negative sentiment override), may experience attachment panic (maintain physical and emotional control over their partners), or maintain multiple attachments for fear of losing or being swallowed by one (who have
attachment behaviors (think attack and defend, or pursue and distance patterns), suffer ongoing
attachment injury (ongoing negative sentiment override), may experience attachment panic (maintain physical and emotional control over their partners), or maintain multiple attachments for fear of losing or being swallowed by one (who have
attachment injury (ongoing negative sentiment override), may experience
attachment panic (maintain physical and emotional control over their partners), or maintain multiple attachments for fear of losing or being swallowed by one (who have
attachment panic (maintain physical and emotional control over their partners), or maintain multiple
attachments for fear of losing or being swallowed by one (who have affairs).
EFT conceptualizes infidelity
as a type of «
attachment injury» where a fundamental breach of trust inhibits partner's ability to resolve an affair and potential long standing patterns of distance and distress.
Therapies such
as Emotional Focus Therapy, which focuses on
attachment injuries coupled with addiction treatment if your behaviors have addiction features.
I work with couples seeking preventative and premarital counseling,
as well
as more extensive intervention after an
attachment injury or life transition.
As Dr. John Gottman says in What Makes Love Last, «An
attachment injury destroys the implicit contract between partners to be there and nurture each other....
Reactive
attachment disorder is a brain
injury that typically occurs
as a result of early abuse and neglect.
As we all well know with doing EFT it is impossible for one's own
attachment style /
injuries not to impact the work, and Zoya created a grounded, safe space to unpack and be present for all that is occurring for me at this juncture in my EFT journey.
In psychological terms, I recognize this incident
as an early
attachment injury — a relational trauma that, if unrepaired, tends to be carried into our adult lives and relationships.
However, there are a number of factors that can impact length of treatment, such
as trauma history,
attachment injuries and recovering from affairs.
However, even if an individual has formed healthy, secure
attachments, a «relationship
injury», such
as an affair, can cause trauma within a relationship that requires intensive repair work to rebuild trust that has been compromised.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) conceptualizes infidelity
as a type of «
attachment injury» where a fundamental breach of trust inhibits a partner's ability to resolve an affair and potential long standing patterns of distance and distress.
Assess for
attachment injury and trauma history in presenting couples
as it relates to case conceptualization.
When there have been
attachment injuries in childhood, or a major
attachment injury such
as an affair it may take a year or more of work to help a couple feel secure and loving with each other.
If the trauma was an
attachment injury in childhood; an
injury suffered at the hands of someone close to and trusted by the victim; this can cause disconnects in adult love and family relationships that might manifest
as a lack of trust or fear of commitment.
What started
as little quirks and patterns have developed into a debilitating
attachment injury in your relationship.