As far as Attachment Parenting goes, we suggest looking at
the attachment needs of the baby.
Not exact matches
My high
need baby girl grew to be a little girl with a strong
need for solid
attachment to her Mama and a lot
of reassurance to venture out
of her comfort zone.
Research shows that parents who are sensitive to their
babies needs increases the development
of the child's
attachment security1.
While this seems outrageously out
of tune with Dr. Sears»
attachment parenting and the
need to attend to your
baby's every
need, when your
baby can not be soothed, and you're completely depleted, what you have to offer in that moment is
of no value to anyone.
Popularized by physicians like Dr. William Sears and Dr. Jay Gordon,
attachment parenting directly contradicts the two hundred years
of Western culture that has convinced us that we
need a lot
of help: help giving birth; help «teaching» our
baby to sleep; help just being a parent.
Attachment parenting is a style of parenting that encourages a strong early attachment, and advocates parental responsiveness to babies» depende
Attachment parenting is a style
of parenting that encourages a strong early
attachment, and advocates parental responsiveness to babies» depende
attachment, and advocates parental responsiveness to
babies» dependency
needs.
«In the vast majority
of cases, it's the mother who is the primary
attachment figure: young
babies need a primary caregiver and being separated from that figure can cause them problems.
Babies need to develop their feelings
of security and
attachment so give your
baby what they
need and the toddler will adjust.
If anything, the whole idea
of attachment parenting is that all
of this
baby wearing, nursing, cosleeping and responding to
needs creates a feeling
of security that the parent is present and will be helpful should a
need a rise.
This philosophy, termed «
Attachment Parenting» by its champion, pediatrician and father
of eight Dr. William Sears (author
of the popular child - care manual The
Baby Book, among others), sees infants not as manipulative adversaries who must be «trained» to eat, sleep, and play when told, but as dependent yet autonomous human beings whose wants and
needs are intelligible to the parent willing to listen, and who deserve to be responded to in a reasonable and sensitive manner.
- Tricia Jalbert & Macall Gordon,
Attachment Parenting International «Whether
baby sleeps in a crib or the familybed, The No - Cry Sleep Solution is full
of supportive, encouraging and sensibleideas that respect the
needs of both the
baby and the parents.»
Brain research has progressed to the extent that we now know that
babies need their primary caregivers close to normally develop that sense
of security (secure
attachment) in the first few years and that parenting is not a 9 - 5 job;
babies don't care about clocks, you know.
It has allowed me to meet the
attachment needs of my toddler while caring for her
baby brother, and to meet both
of their many medical challenges.
In Katie Allison Grangu's book
Attachment Parenting: Instinctive Care for Your
Baby and Young Child, she calls on parents to trust what their instincts tell them: stating «Instead
of feeling that you should put him down, rest assured that he is exactly where he
needs to be.»
Many parents who have never heard
of attachment parenting choose to breast - feed, or to respond to their children's
needs by holding and carrying them often, or to bring their
babies and young children into their bed so everyone can get some sleep, or to be their children's primary caregivers the majority
of the time in the early years.
The theory is that if all
of the
attachment parenting principles, like co-sleeping and breastfeeding, are there to regulate your
baby's physiological systems and to raise your awareness
of your
baby and their
needs, then the risk
of SIDS is reduced.
The idea
of attachment parenting it to respect the emotional psychological
needs of the
baby.
Learning when and how to seek permission before massaging a
baby is an important skill not only for infant massage, but also achieving mastery
of the care - giving skills
needed to provide what a
baby needs most: love and a secure infant - caregiver
attachment.
You do
need a plan but a
baby can sleep through the night whether you are doing
attachment parenting, scheduled parenting or a combination
of both.
I feel like I do not fit it with the
attachment parenting crowd because I am not «enough»
of an
attachment parent, but I know full well I am trying my damn hardest to respond to my
baby's (well toddler's)
needs and actually I am not doing a bad job
of it..
A calm and confident mom is so crucial to our
babies» development and the foundation for building a healthy, secure
attachment; the most important thing a
baby needs at the beginning
of their life.
Research that began with the late psychologist John Bowlby's
Attachment Theory back in the 1950s has shown the critical need for consistently loving, sensitive responsiveness to develop a secure parent - child attachment — that component that forms the foundation of how our babies and toddlers go on to relate to others... in all relationships... through the rest of th
Attachment Theory back in the 1950s has shown the critical
need for consistently loving, sensitive responsiveness to develop a secure parent - child
attachment — that component that forms the foundation of how our babies and toddlers go on to relate to others... in all relationships... through the rest of th
attachment — that component that forms the foundation
of how our
babies and toddlers go on to relate to others... in all relationships... through the rest
of their lives.
It highlights the importance
of good maternal mental health so that the mother can be sensitive to the
baby's emotions and
needs, helping the
baby to develop secure
attachment.
In this article, you'll find out everything you
need to know about how to convert your
baby's crib into a safe and effective co sleep
attachment that he or she will be able to use for the same length
of time your child would have been able to use the crib.
It would seem logical, then, to think that the
babies of mothers who practice
attachment parenting would not
need attachment objects.
It is a one - stop, quick - fix for so many
of your
baby's
needs: her
need for closeness, food, drink, warmth, the sound
of mother's heartbeat, the feel
of her skin, and the reassurance that her primary source
of attachment will not leave her.
The Journal also cites that sleep problems can also be related to temperament,
attachment problems, tension in parent's lives or a parent's own psychological functioning (such as a Mom who
needs the closeness
of her
baby for her own emotional security).
2003 This comprehensive guide to the first two years emphasizes a
baby's basic
needs and helps new parents to meet those
needs through the
attachment style
of parenting.
Granju, Katie
ATTACHMENT PARENTING Pocket Books, 1999 A practical guide for parents who want to be responsive and respectful
of their
baby's
needs.
Learning when and how to seek permission before massaging a
baby is an critical skill not only for infant massage, but also achieving mastery
of the care giving skills
needed to provide what a
baby needs most: love and a secure infant - caregiver
attachment.
Complete with a personal small purse with a zip closure and carrying strap, a matching changing pad, two small accessory cases, an insulated bottle bag, and a pair
of grips for stroller
attachment, you'll have plenty
of options and space to bring everything you and
baby need for a successful day out
of the house!
Figs also references John Bowlby the father
of attachment theory to emphasize this very important fact: «When it comes to love, you're still a
baby and your partner is still a
baby because this
need for emotional bonding with a primary other is a «cradle to the grave» experience.»
Frequency
of visitation is much more important than length
of visitation because
babies have short memories and
need ample contact to facilitate bonding and
attachment.
From this perspective, many attributes
of children can lead to secure
attachment, as long as the caregivers modify their behavior to fit the
needs of the
baby (Seifer & Schiller, 1995).
After some time
of loosely going through various parenting websites, I found the terms high
need baby and
attachment theory research on a great parenting website made by Dr. Sears (William Sears) and his wife, Martha Sears, who themselves have had quite a demanding
baby.
What is
attachment parenting: Future Goal Attachment parenting focuses on quickly and consistently fulfilling your infant's or baby's physical needs (to eat, sleep etc.) and emotional needs (love, attention, security, comfort etc.) to build high self esteem and a basic sense of security, which research has proven is highly beneficial for further positive child de
attachment parenting: Future Goal
Attachment parenting focuses on quickly and consistently fulfilling your infant's or baby's physical needs (to eat, sleep etc.) and emotional needs (love, attention, security, comfort etc.) to build high self esteem and a basic sense of security, which research has proven is highly beneficial for further positive child de
Attachment parenting focuses on quickly and consistently fulfilling your infant's or
baby's physical
needs (to eat, sleep etc.) and emotional
needs (love, attention, security, comfort etc.) to build high self esteem and a basic sense
of security, which research has proven is highly beneficial for further positive child development.
But now there is a growing movement in the U.S. toward «
attachment parenting», a theory
of child - rearing centered around responsiveness to children's
needs and close physical contact between
baby and mother.
Responding to your
baby's cues
of when she
needs to sleep, or play, or feed, or be cuddled, is important in helping develop secure
attachment (see the topic At
attachment (see the topic
AttachmentAttachment).
Studies show that
babies whose
needs are responded to on a consistent basis have what experts call a secure
attachment to their mother or whoever is taking care
of them most
of the time.
The theory
of attachment addresses how a relationship
of poor quality — an insecure
attachment — emerges from interaction that is not responsive to the
baby's
needs.
Because
of Freud's pervasive influence on society's mainstream beliefs about the parent - child relationship, people often expect that any caregiver who regularly meets a
baby's
needs will become an
attachment partner for that
baby.
Fact: Breastfeeding directly from the breast offers significant benefits over bottlefeeding expressed breastmilk for both mother and infant, including, among others: infant jaw development, infant control
of milk flow, psychological
attachment of infant to mother, health benefits for mother that pumping the breast does not achieve, infant's ability to feed on demand, the stimulation and maintenance
of mother» smilk supply that pumping alone can not achieve (and some women can not successfully pump), avoidance
of problems such as that some
babies will not move back and forth easily between bottle and breast, nutritional variation
of milk during the breastfeeding, that it's cheaper and avoids the
need for a variety
of feeding equipment, and that breastmilk from the breast is always fresh and free
of contaminents.