My bathroom sinks are just too small to wash a baby, and I'm just not a kitchen sink to clean
the baby kind of mom.
Not exact matches
And then,
of course, there are the multitudes, ranging from your mother - in - law to strangers on the streets, who want to tell you whether you will be having a boy or girl, or the
kinds of foods
mom should be eating, or how you should be playing classical music at home so your
baby is born a genius.
Count me amongst the confused: Are you
moms all blown apart by the fact that someone called you on the idea that carrying a
baby in a
baby - sling (or, for that matter, ten to fifteen pounds, say,
of any
kind of deadweight) might cause back pain (which it, pretty obviously, would)?
I think it's important to realize that there are all
kinds of moms out there, and some
of us are unable to breastfeed, or have
babies that won't tolerate being in a sling, or co-sleeping.
I really hate to stumble into some
kind of biological essentialism, because I know not all
moms feel that way - even if they had a choice, which many don't, some don't feel that intensely attached to their small
babies.
Hey Motrin, here's a clue, we
moms who
baby wear might just be the
kind of moms who pay enough attention to our
babies to know when they might need some fever reducers.
CINDY HARTSHORN: Breastfeeding education is very important especially for
moms that may have slightly different circumstances either their
baby borns are being born prematurely, in the case
of twins, long labor, anybody who has PCOS may have problems that
kind of thing.
Before having a
baby, I had a very clear idea
of what
kind of mom I would be.
This is one
of the few books that is not only about breastfeeding, but covers other things as well including how to prepare for a
baby, what
kind of diet to consume before and after pregnancy, how to sanitize the skin before feeding the
baby, what to do in case the
baby doesn't enjoy breastfeeding, and in what quantity should a
mom feed.
It feel more like, it almost feel natural, you know, like... So I would tell single
moms that have to return to work and they feel like they're deciding whether to pump or just provide breastmilk when they're with their
babies that whatever you feels right in your heart, that's what usually helps, you know,
kind of the process flow without any added stress because like one
of the
moms mentioned here on the show.
... Some
of the events that I go to and some
of the networking meetings, a few
moms have their
babies there too and we
kind of see each other; we acknowledge each other.
Figuring out how to tell if you're bad at breastfeeding is something that no
mom anticipates dealing with before she has a
baby, but amid all the guilt and challenges, it's not uncommon to find yourself experiencing that
kind of doubt.
Could a
mom who has better relationships have lower stress levels or some
kind of hormone that helps protect her
baby from developing colic?
But, many
moms will tell you some
kind of baby carrier or stroller is absolutely vital.
When it comes to breastfeeding, there is a lot
of trial and error for both
mom and
baby and the results can be...
kind of disasterous.
Also, the
mom &
baby yoga class is terrific and one
of a
kind!
So, tips at the top and then the main categories are breastfeeding, weight, all about
baby, they have a section about vitamin D, expressing breastmilk so pumping, diapers and a section for all about
mom too and there's a summary where you can
kind of get the summary
of all the information that you added in.
It's beautiful because it's a
mom breastfeeding her
baby, I actually can't see much
of the
mom its mainly a picture
of the
baby, but the big deal is that this
baby was born with cancer and so, born with cancer, yeah, like I mean totally horrid
kind of situation.
When
mom is in that emotional tailspin
of being a new mother all wrapped up in that
baby and that feeding experience, oftentimes, it's dad who's the one who can
kind of pull out these facts from his memory and use that male analytical thinking to help be supportive and help her figure a way through any difficulties or challenges.
A
mom that's lucky enough or the situation is that she can
kind of feed on demand and just needs to pump every once in a while if the
baby is not there, or sleeping, or whatever, you know, can get away with just a manual pump.
For me it
kind of rubs me the wrong way because it indicates that if you're not breastfeeding your
baby, that you're not
baby - friendly and, man, I think that that could really hurt a lot
of moms that have chosen not to breastfeed.
So that's a little bit different from the video where
baby comes
kind of over the drape and on to
mom.
Dr. Nick Capetanakis: Yeah, usually about those 2 hours guests are
kind of minimized you just one to make sure
moms blood pressure is doing fine and her bleeding is doing ok, the
baby is transitioning ok.
Sometimes the anesthesiologist can raise the table a little bit, so that
mom can look over her belly and see the birth
of her
baby and
kind of be the first, you know, sight that the
baby sees is
mom looking back at him or her.
Because you don't want necessarily
mom reaching into the operating field because you
kind of get a little bit disconnected and your hands can go into the sterile environment so it's very important to have control
of those hands but you don't necessarily need them strapped down, you can just remind
mom that her hands, you know needs to be on her chest and so she can hold her
baby and feel his or her breath and warmth and touch, so...
So she was out in public with her eight week old son and it says that she was at a cafe and she happened to be breastfeeding her
baby and it says an elderly women, in not sure if it actually lists her name or sorry her age, but anyway this elderly women comes up to her and honestly the
mom was like «oh no, she's going to tell me to cover up, she's going to be like, be mean about this or you know or how dare I be, you know doing this in public
kind of thing» and the only thing the elderly wanted to do was to help the
mom be able to eat.
So she literally,
of course she asked and stuff but she helped the
mom but cutting up her food so the
mom didn't have to put the
baby down, you know and stop with the breastfeeding because you then the
baby goes crazy and stuff like that and so she literally help cut her food which I just thought was just the most heartwarming thing just because it was just so different then you know,
kind of what was going on in the
moms head.
Once
baby is out,
mom can, you know see the gender and then usually we
kind of put the drape back up because then things are a little bit more clinical again.
HOPE LIEN: We did stay in the hospital, it was a very small hospital but the staff there was extremely accommodating and they
kind of were able to give us like our own little space and so we were
kind of go back and forth between rooms and the
baby would go back and forth between us and then yeah and we would also spend a lot
of time with our birth
mom and it was just it was a really memorable experience for sure.
I was breastfeed as a
baby and not for extremely long I think for like four months but my
mom was always very pro breastfeeding but now when I see her, because like I said I'm still feeding my twins imp still breastfeeding my twins and so she
kind of gives me that «Are you done yet»
kind of look like really you got to whip those out and it's not that she is modest, she is not modest or anything like that.
The Women's Center works closely with Copley's Birthing Center, offering
moms and
babies the
kind of personal attentive care that only a small community - based and family - oriented hospital can offer.
This
kind of assistance ends up being needed in about one in twenty US births, either because the
baby needs to be delivered quickly for safety reasons, or because the
mom is too worn out to continue pushing.
With this gift stacked high with all
kinds of different necessities for
baby,
mom - to - be will feel excited sifting through the boxes finding all the
baby goodies.
It promotes a
kind of attachment that allows the infant to internalize
mom's responsive state, a mirror in which the
baby begins to make sense
of who he is.
Before I had Melanie, I had visions
of being the
kind of mom I saw all around me: formula feeding, using disposable diapers, having
baby sleep in her own room in her own crib and getting around with a stroller.
And so, spending that time with your partner reconnecting and also for the partner to really
kind of learn the
baby's signals too, so that way, you know, the partner can help keep the
baby awake while the
baby's feeding in those first couple
of week, rubbing the palms, rubbing the
baby's back, rubbing the
mom's shoulders, because a lot
of women tend to breastfeed with their shoulders up to their ears, [Laughs] and they need, you know, some help to
kind of relax their body, and partners can do lots
of skin - to - skin before and after feedings, so, there is nothing like smelling a brand new
baby on your chest and again, it
kind of goes back to what you had mentioned about skin - to - skin being, you know, so important for the
baby and so,
mom's not the only person who has the opportunity to do that.
I see a lot
of women who continue to have overactive letdown and so
babies starts nursing a little bit less like they switch either having solid or
kind of more than natural weaning process but until that point as
baby is nursing a lot I do tend to feel a lot
moms continue to have an overactive letdown and it's not so much that that goes away, it's just that
mom and
baby are better at handling it, so it's not a big
of a problem
Two, cow's milk... some
babies have a sensitivity to the protein in cow's milk, so if
mom has a diet replete with this
kind of dairy, and the
baby is susceptible,
mom is going to end up with a very uncomfortable and gassy
baby.
As Kelly
Mom states, you should go into those first weeks expecting to let your
baby nurse when they need to nurse and not try to set any
kind of schedule.
KRISTINA CHAMBERLAIN: Well sometimes
moms will deal with it more in the first couple
of months just while their bodies and
babies and still you know figuring out what's the supply and demand is, so, a lot
of times after the
baby's hit you know the 2 or 3 months mark that starts to get better just because again
moms and
babies bodies are you know dancing together a little bit better they're getting more in to rhythm, so sometimes that the time and then in itself will
kind of resolve it as
baby gets bigger and
kind of figures that out but if after the 2 months mark it's still an issue when it's making nursing hard for
mom and
baby I would say then start doing some
of the things that we talked about to be a little bit more assertively treating it
Other
moms are more comfortable during a laid back position where a
mom is leaning back and
baby is on top
of her body
kind of faced down into the breast so both
of these were a
baby is in more control
of that flow, that heavy flow but also the forceful letdown that somebody had mentioned that helps and just a have a little bit more control
of it so they can coordinate their suck, swallow and breathe pattern a little bit better too
I think part
of it too is... And this is in general, my husband and
mom are just
kind of in awe about how the whole process works and how all I have to do is lift up my shirt and two
babies just come charging at me.
But, I also like to
kind of turn it around and say, «Well,
mom and
baby are going to be sitting on the couch, in bed, relaxing, wherever they are breastfeeding for about 45 minutes, eight or more times in a 24 hour period for the first couple
of weeks; this is your opportunity to reconnect with your partner».
After the
baby's done nursing, is that partner going to bring them and wrap them up and put them back or is
mom going to
kind of co-sleep with a little bit with them and
kind of relax that way?
ROSE DEVIGNE - JACKIEWICZ: I found that most
moms do have an app on their phone, and even though we do say «Don't look at the clock» they still
kind of want to have an idea, because those first two weeks we do like to know when they come in to see the doctors «Okay, how many times has your
baby nursed?
So after the
baby is here and as the
baby starts to
kind of move into that five, six, eight month old, one year old, they start to be really focused particularly for
moms on whether or not they're child is feeling secure in the world, whether or not they're feeling validated and heard and listen to.
KRISTINA CHAMBERLAIN: So,
moms could also try to stay like they needed to still pump a little bit just to get their nipples to evert and
kind of being more elongated for
babies.
It's
kind of gooey and sticky and thick
kind of the consistency
of may be honey or molasses so it doesn't flow very well and a lot
of mom to have to pump for a NICU
baby say, «oh nothing is coming out I don't have any milk» but it's harder to get it out via the pump than the
baby can do it.
So, for
moms who find that their
baby is really very frustrated and not happy with the breast, I definitely would say, «You give it a good old try and really try and get your
baby to breastfeed unless you
kind of figure it out for you know usually up to 15 minutes but at that point, I wouldn't push it longer than that.»
So, I hear a lot
of moms ask, «What if my
baby discontinues to cry at the bare nipple and can not latch without the shield — should
mom keep trying without the shield or should she instead
kind of favour this that's actually help our
baby get on?»