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a bad birth experience and asking for the help you need.
If you're reading this and have had
a bad birth experience, see a therapist to get through those emotions.
And I can understand that the women who feel they had
a bad birth experience are trying to reclaim that sense of loss of control that they feel they experienced, but I think there are a couple of reasons for this.
This is separate from people who had
a bad birth experience because of their care or interaction with hospital staff (whatever the reason may be), or because truly frightening things happened to them.
If you already had
a bad birth experience or if you are scared to give birth, give this book a chance.
Not exact matches
As they grow, children encounter many large and small crises both expected and unexpected:
birth itself, weaning, toilet training, separation from parents, illness, accidents, the
birth of a brother or sister,
bad dreams, starting school, learning to read, making friends, adolescence — these and many other
experiences provide the potential for problems of varying intensity.
If you have been hurt
badly, lied to or had significant physical and emotional damage from traditional medical care — being forced back into that environment will cause fear, that will hamper labour due to how women were made (any threat the woman feels causes labour to slow until she no longer
experiences that «fight or flight response», and when she feels safe again, labour should resume)-- labour slows and then interventions «have» to be done... and the cycle repeats itself — reenforcing the belief that the hospital is not the place to
birth.
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Worst Enemy
The
worst thing to say to a mom who has had a traumatic
birth is «at least you have a healthy baby» as it completely belittles the woman and minimizes everything they are feeling and have
experienced.
My
birth experiences were neither good nor
bad, they just were.
undesired outcomes of
birth for women came to consist of a
bad experience and psychological damage from missed bonding opportunities
I had had some
bad experiences with my second
birth, but it was a first trimester miscarriage the year prior to having Ava that sealed the deal for me.
``... As childbearing became safer and more benign visions of nature arose, undesired outcomes of
birth for women came to consist of a
bad experience and psychological damage from missed bonding opportunities.
Because your
birth experience is
WORSE THAN MEANINGLESS compared to the health of your baby's brain or body!
While, I appreciate your response, I assure you no punishment or no amount of humiliation this doctor receives for her stupidity will take away the pain and humiliation she has now caused a mother who has already
experienced the
worst pain imaginable in having a still
birth.
I have been very vocal about the
bad experience I had with my first
birth and my huge fear of having a repeat c - section.
Thank you so much Sharon for helping me cleanse myself of that
bad experience and create a fresh new beautiful
birth for my second daughter!
Watching my daughter lose almost 20 percent of her
birth weight and have to be re-hospitalized for jaundice and dehydration was one of the
worst experiences of my life.
Instead, they continue to trumpet that the only authentic way to give
birth is according to their extremely narrow precepts, and that anyone who deviates from them (or
worse, adheres to them and is disappointed in her
experience) is a «failure» at
birth.
I think that it is possible to have a good
birth experience in a hospital and that THIS SHOULD be promoted because many women have had
bad experiences in hospitals and need to know that it doesn't HAVE to be one or the other.
I think you're also failing to recognize the extent to which unrelieved pain and the difficulties inherent in childbirth by its very nature were major contributors to her
bad experience, and that home
birth without access to pain relief or cesarean section would have done little to improve her
experience and might have made it far
worse.
Wow, I could have written this out word for word, except my hospital
birth experiences weren't too
bad.
A lot of moms wind up with episiotomies to get stuck babies out, but the
worst - case scenario is an emergency C - section that requires general anesthesia, making the
birth experience not only traumatizing for mom, but also cuts her out of the
birth entirely.
what a beautiful albeit a bit freighting
birth story, it's too
bad you had to have that
experience in the end but I'm so glad you and baby are fine now and hopefully telling your story will help heal.
Waterbirth Executive Director Barbara Harper turned to water
birth 25 years ago with her second and third children after a
bad experience during her first child's hospital
birth.
I am very sad to hear about some of the
bad experiences with hospital
births in the other comments.
My first
birth was a
bad experience that I didn't want to relive.
I
experienced the headaches after giving
birth and it was the
worst headache of my life.
I so
badly wanted to have a natural
birth (per my well written
birth plan) followed by a blissful postpartum
experience.
Camren, I'm sorry you had a
bad first
birth experience.
If your first
birth experience is a
bad one, you can only compare it to the picture you had in your mind, and many women go on to have a healing second
birth.
Everyone knows that a woman giving
birth to a baby naturally is probably
experiencing the
worst pain of her life.
Even doctors
experienced in breech
birth have
worse outcomes then vaginal
birth.
None of the items on this list are
bad choices, but some are certainly better than others depending on your own
birth experience.
Reality is that the home
birth movement gained strength as a reaction to the terrible hospital
experiences, the unnecessary c - sections and the
bad management of labours at the hands of inexperienced residents.
As a Consultant Obstetrician who strives daily to ensure that all women have a normal
birth experience but who is available when things don't go to plan, I think your article is blinkered at best and very unhelpful at
worst.
These moms then have X number of months to ruminate over those TMI details and wonder, «Will my
birth experience be that
bad?»
All because of my
experience with my babies after
birth, being separated from them, not being allowed to nurse them when I wanted, having formula pushed, being told I'm a
bad mother and I want to starve my babies.
I gave
birth in Ein Karem last time, and didn't have a
bad experience per se, but I've heard tons of horror stories there, so I'm not surprised you said Ein Karem.
She did not come to home
birth after a
bad hospital
experience like I did.
I was about to drown myself in the tub when I had a revelation... [With] the midwife looking at me and saying, «You're a coward and a
bad mother if you give up on your
birth experience.
Hiring a doula isn't a
bad idea either, she will be able to help you with those techniques you are going to need to have the best
experience in natural
birth.
While mothers who
experienced depressive symptoms at other times had
worse relationships with all of their children, PND was found to be specifically detrimental to the relationship mothers had with their child whose
birth triggered the PND.
When the typical response to a cesarean
birth is «Oh I'm so sorry, what happened,» we're negating their autonomy, we're negating their
experience and telling them that we feel
bad for them because they had a surgical
birth experience.
Me: No... I had a
bad experience with a hospital
birth and a hippie doctor with our first child, which led to a better
experience in a hospital with midwives for our second child, which led me to you.
I am a doula (in my free time) and absolutely love helping women have positive
birth experiences since I know first hand how deeply
birth can affect women (in good and
bad ways).
Watched videos and participated in an online natural
birth course (that I took twice during the course of pregnancy) I focused on others» positive natural
birth experiences and tried to block out the
worst - case scenario stories.
Take a free online In a country
experiencing one of the
worst birth rates in the world, two South Korean universities are now offering courses that make it mandatory for
http://musingmonika.blogspot.com/2011/08/rant.html This one's my current favorite because it speaks to something that I've been dealing with a lot lately - adoption hatred from specific
birth mothers who have had
bad experiences trying to taint adoption as a whole.