When a marriage is less securely connected, these negative interactions can
become habitual responses.
Not exact matches
Habitual patterns of
response, such as getting dressed, riding a bicycle, using a typewriter, so painfully and self - consciously learned at the time,
become quite unconscious.37 A centralized nervous system or its close analogue may be the necessary basis for consciousness, but consciousness itself is the inner concomitant of the presence of some novelty which has not yet faded into the background through incessant repetition.
By developing our ability to be mindful, and by learning how to apply mindfulness to more healthy methods of coping with stress, we may
become able to change our
habitual and unhelpful
responses to anxiety.»
Unsuccessful patterns of sensorimotor
responses may
become habitual, negatively affecting the normal and healthy interplay between top - down and bottom - up processing, and thus contribute to trauma symptoms.
* recognize your current,
habitual patterns of communication * challenge and change your stories about the other parent * deepen your understanding and management of your emotional
responses * manage your ego instead of blaming the other parent * understand how you use and abuse power and authority in a relationship * listen as an act of being present *
become curious when you believe you already know the answer * ask questions to confirm your understanding of what is being communicated before you respond.