But I do have a wish or two for you in 2015 — please consider getting rid of the script in your head of what love, relationships or marriage should look like and instead ask yourself what you want them to look like; that you stop looking to others to tell you what you should or shouldn't do and question, question, question any advice you
read or hear from Internet experts or, for that matter, even credentialed experts (some are just not very good or have their own
biases); and, finally, to stop giving credence to
articles in women's magazines that often fuel anxiety and chip away at self - esteem because the emphasis always seems to be that you're doing something wrong and if you just did X, Y and Z, you'd have what you want and live happily ever
after.