Abrazo only places children with adoptive parents who are committed to openness and prepared to enter into lifelong relationships
with birthfamilies, to ensure that the children placed within this agency always have honest, age - appropriate information about their adoption and their families of origin, from Placement Day onwards.
I was worked up enough that I wrote to her myself maybe 25 years ago, when she went off on an adult adoptee who wanted to search
for birthfamily.
At Abrazo, we advocate for full - disclosure open adoptions, meaning our adopting parents and
prospective birthfamilies voluntarily exchange identifying information (ie., last names and addresses), engage in direct communication (phone calls, correspondence) and continue contact (including visits) throughout the child's life span.
At Abrazo, we advocate for full - disclosure open adoptions, meaning the adopting parents and the prospective
birthfamilies exchange identifying information including last names and addresses, engage in direct communication (phone calls, correspondence) and continue contact (including visits) throughout each child's life span.
Abrazo's village is made up
of birthfamilies, adoptive families, professionals and kids, who care about each other as true friends do.
That's not really a problem for us, though, because we don't believe that it is realistic to think that adoptions could really be open if the adoptive family and
birthfamily live an ocean apart — and openness matters, to us!
Don't believe those other places that claim open adoption means placing a child with someone who won't share their last name, or that
healthy birthfamilies should «move on» and lose interest in their child's welfare eventually, or that post-adoption communication should always go through a third party intermediary like an agency or attorney.
Obviously, there is often a considerable economic difference
between birthfamilies and adoptive families, so it's possible that this contrast also contributes to this impression?
That said, we had many visits from our son's
birthfamily at the beginning, and we now visit them regularly.
Soon we will attend a wedding together in
the birthfamily.
At first, I was worried about the set - up, but our adoption agency did a wonderful job counselling and
our birthfamilies are great.
My own children were adopted, and we have always kept in touch with
the birthfamilies.
And yes, I would be remiss to drop my children off for the weekend into
a birthfamily, or any family, full of addicts.
One thing that drew us to them was that they provide ongoing counseling to birthmothers and
birthfamilies, to the child, and to the adoptive parents... pretty much forever.
«None of us had a template for how that would work,» Barb recalls when thinking about the joining of two adoptive families in addition to
the birthfamily.
We feel truly honored and blessed to have been placed with
this birthfamily.»
We hold our family relationships sacred, and look forward to creating a lifelong bond with a child and his or
her birthfamily.
At Abrazo, we believe that the healthiest families are those with the least secrets, and we rely on the legally - contracted promises of our adoptive families to raise their children with knowledge of and access to
their birthfamilies — from Day One, onwards.
While some once - adopted people sometimes worry that their questions about their adoption or their interest in
their birthfamily might somehow hurt their adoptive parents» feelings, the truth is that most adoptive parents would actually prefer for their kids to involve them in their efforts to learn more about their adoption and who was a part of it.
Dr. Curtis, a college professor, completed a transracial and open adoption which has enabled her child to maintain a positive relationship with
her birthfamily while benefitting from all the advantages a loving adoptive home has to offer.
In every life story, there are ups and downs, victories and challenges, and the same is true for every adoptive family and
every birthfamily and every adoptee.
I was worked up enough that I wrote to her myself maybe 25 years ago, when she went off on an adult adoptee who wanted to search for
birthfamily.
The joy of parenting these three boys, knowing they are gifts from the Lord and gifts from
our birthfamilies, is impossible to measure.
We have been blessed to have a relationship with
our birthfamilies and have seen how God has worked in their lives, as well as in ours, to accomplish His purposes.