Choosing not to
breastfeed a child does increase the child's risk of sickness.
Instead, the reason
breastfed children do better is because they are more likely to grow up in an environment that supports cognitive development.
Studies show that breastfed children don't get sick as often as formula - fed children — and that means fewer upper respiratory, middle ear, and gastrointestinal infections.
Other breastfeeding children don't mind at all.
Not exact matches
But I
do know that my grandfather once told me that when he was growing up around the 20s and 30s, it was natural for mothers to
breastfeed their
children in church.
Breastfeeding is the best a mother can
do for her
child.
Meanwhile, seven pregnancies, 10 years of
breastfeeding and four
children later, Pope Francis's comment that we don't have to «be like rabbits» leaves me feeling wistful.
But hey knowing how Wenger
breastfeeds his
children i am not surprised that they
do nt get it what it is like to be under pressure and to actually perform to their best
Breastfeeding mothers don't have any obligation to allow you to give them space, they are only trying to feed and nurture their
child so if you have a problem with it turn your head and look away.
So I just don't get the «too much pressure to
breastfeed» when all around me are images of bottles, ads for formula telling me a happy feeding makes a happy mom, bottlefeeding moms, moms and doctors and nurses telling new moms that formula is «just as good» and «not to feel guilty», women getting «the look» for nursing in public, or feeling weird about
doing it (I sure
did)-- to me, any pressure out there is NOT to
breastfeed, or
do it as little as possible (not if it's not immediately easy or you don't love every minute, not past 6 mos, not in public, not around male relatives and friends, not around
children, not if you ever want to go out alone sometime...)
I bet you have had to give in hundreds of times in completely different areas of life... My 2 - year - old
breastfed child is very well - behaved and I
do not give in whenever he wants anything... I let him have a cuddle and be
breastfed not because he wants it but because he needs it...
It is a two way street, but only for those that deserve the same respect they give a
breastfeeding mom for the great thing she is
doing for her
child.
Further more, those I know who
breastfed their
children are significantly more healthy and don't get sick near as often as those who have formula fed their babies.
Often women with low supply are let down by the
breastfeeding community because they rely on the idea that if your
child does not have enough milk it is because you are not working hard enough.
And as ridiculous as you may find it, I
do demand the right to expose my breast wherever and whenever to
breastfeed my
child / ren.
That said, I am of the mind that
breastfeeding, caring for one's own
child and other matters of family and home are for the most part the responsibility of individual families and
do not really require all this «support» many call for.
For me, none of us
children were
breastfed, I didn't even think i would
do it, it didn't seem like something i wanted to
do, but I am so thankful of the experience.
Despite attending La Leche League meetings while pregnant and reading books about
breastfeeding I didn't know that lactation consultants
did weighed feeds or that if my
child was diagnosed with failure to thrive it was time to see one.
If a well - meaning friend or relative wanted to buy my
child a doll and knew that we
did not formula - feed, I'd like to think she'd have the option of buying a
breastfeeding doll like Bebé Glotón.
All the messages about what one «ought» to
do for their
children, be it
breastfeeding, staying at home, enrolling in the optimal preschool, attachment parenting, whatever, are typically only available to people with a certain amount of social capital.
The purpose of
breastfeeding is to provide your baby with nutrients, if your
child can eat regular food, they no longer need those nutrients so why are you still
doing it?
I can proudly say that my little one is still
breastfeeding at 33 months old and we plan to
do child - led weaning!
unless you drink enough to kill yourself, drinking while
breastfeeding does not affect the baby... it may affect your head the next morning but the
child will be fine...
What I don't respect is the potential assumption (from her, or from others) that me
breastfeeding my
child / ren is about exhibitionism, seduction (I wish!)
So, you
breastfed all of them exclusively for 1 year (yes, many doctors argue that you should not give any solids for the entire first year if life), only fed organic foods after you let them start feeding themselves at 1 year, never offered baby cereals, don't put anything in plastic, wore your baby every minute of every day, co-slept or didn't co-sleep, depending on who you asked, don't allow your
children to sleep on commercially produced mattresses, don't use any Johnson's products, etc. etc. etc.?
Does this image help normalize
breastfeeding or promote the commodification of mother -
child moments?
A family member who had not been successful
breastfeeding her first
child came to me and asked for some advice about how to
do better with her next one.
I just wanted to chime in here, too... not to judge but to pass on information in case one day you
did want to attempt to
breastfeed another
child.
Incidentally, I
breastfed for a little over a year, but around 9 months supplemented with formula too — I am a staunch supporter of moms
doing what works for them and their
child.
So now in Holland you are being told by the health - workers you
do a poor job giving your
child 6 months exclusive
breastfeeding, because you would risk food allergies.
My opinion is that
breastfeeding does not guarantee a healthier
child.
And to add to that, when a woman has tried her damndest to
breastfeed, and it just
did not work out, please be sure and tell her that she is NOT a bad mother and her
child WILL be just fine and not damaged for life.
It is also not my place (or anyone else's place) to tell a
breastfeeding mother to «
do that somewhere else» when she is feeding her
child in public.
I once said to a friend that I don't care how others choose to feed their
children (
breastfeeding / formula, offering solids after 6 months / early introduction).
Unfortunately, while for some parents pacifiers are a godsend, some moms find that their
children, especially those that are
breastfed, want nothing to
do with them.
When I was pregnant with my first
child, I
did what every good soon - to - be-parent is expected to
do, I signed up for a birthing and
breastfeeding class.
If the
child is not neglected and growing and healthy (which the vast majority of
breastfed and formula fed
children are), why
do you care?
But... but... but... I don't want other women to give up on
breastfeeding because they believe something to be true that really isn't true and I don't want you to be robbed of the opportunity to nurse your future
children (if you want to) because you believe something that really isn't true.
I wonder, too, what the long term benefits are for
children whose mothers
did make that sacrifice (when able) and how it impacts society on a much grander scale than cost of formula vs. cost of
breastfeeding.
I wouldn't leave that comment because I applaud her commitment to
breastfed for those 6 weeks and if I tell her that she's a bad parent, what incentive
does she have to consider
breastfeeding again with another
child or encouraging a friend or relative to
breastfeed.
And it's pretty hard not to form a strong connection and get to know your
child really well when you
do breastfeed, spend lots of time with them, wear or carry them everywhere you go, are available to them all night, use positive discipline and practice the other principles of attachment parenting.
If you don't
breastfeed, following a strict diet is not going to affect your
child's health through his or her nutrition, obviously, but while
breastfeeding, it is both your own well - being and that of your baby to take into account.
Don't get me wrong,
breastfeeding is such a special experience and it has been a beautiful way for me to bond with my
children.
For some nursing dyads, this is the appropriate path and they go on and
do well with
breastfeeding and other areas of normal
child development.
Please
do note though that the decision of WHEN to actually stop
breastfeeding your baby is ultimately up to both mother and
child.
You
do not have to
breastfeed your
child every second that they ask for it.
But what we often don't realize is that all the time that we spent just BEING with our
child breastfeeding, was also time spent cuddling our
child.
This is particularly infuriating to me as most mothers
breastfeeding their
children in public
do so with complete discretion and with an absolute minimum of noise or fuss.
Breastfeeding mothers feed their
child while taking care of their other
children or while they're working and
doing any other of a million necessary tasks.
However, if you need to stop
breastfeeding earlier, there
does not need to be harm to your
child.