The child is both internally motivated from the emotional roller coaster of the favored parent and externally motivated
by fear of abandonment.
When this is present, the child is held hostage not only
by a fear of abandonment from displeasing the alienating parent, but also by a feeling of guilt if they do not take care of them emotionally....
Looking to their partners to complete or rescue them, they are motivated
by fear of abandonment and can interpret actions as affirmations of their insecurities rather than believing or trusting their partner and their love3.
Many of the effects of divorce are caused
by this fear of abandonment.
If you feel you're plagued
by fears of abandonment, difficulty functioning without a romantic partner, and repeatedly resorting to desperate measures in order to ensure that your partner does not leave you, you can experience relief by talking with a professional therapist.
Not exact matches
The two sins she most
feared as a child go together, as it turns out: the dropping
of an unformed child and blasphemy;
abandonment by a father and angry unbelief.
I come from «shameless» caretakers,
abandonment, ridicule, abuse, neglect — perfectionistic systems I am empowered
by the shocking intensity
of a parent's rage The cruel remarks
of siblings The jeering humiliation
of other children The awkward reflection in the mirrors The touch that feels icky and frightening The slap, the pinch, the jerk that ruptures trust I am intensified
by A racist, sexist culture The righteous condemnation
of religious bigots The
fears and pressures
of schooling The hypocrisy
of politicians The multigenerational shame
of dysfunctional family systems MY NAME IS TOXIC SHAME
It is saturated
by neurotic guilt (
fear of punishment and
abandonment).
In certain forms
of Christianity, it is similar to the groveling experience
of a child who is driven back to a harsh parent
by an intense
fear of abandonment To be healing, reconciliation must be like the experience
of the Prodigal who comes to himself in a breakthrough
of self - awareness and realizes that the parent's love has never left him, even in the far country
of rebellion.
In therapy, issues around separation, loss,
abandonment, protection and proximity
of attachment figures, coupled with concomitant rage,
fear, anxiety, and depression are expressed and experienced
by most dealing with the break up
of a marriage relationship.
This allows the child to feel understood
by you, maintains a connection, and helps assuage the
fear of rejection and
abandonment.
Coping with divorce can be a difficult time in a child's life, characterized
by fears of change, loss, and
abandonment.
Led
by a mysterious Shadow, the player journeys through a surreal world inspired
by the psychology
of childhood
fears such as
abandonment and hospitals.
-- Borderline: marked
by extreme mood swings,
fears of abandonment, frequent anger and manipulative behavior
This served the purpose
of alleviating activation
of fears of abandonment for Mandy but still communicated a belief in the competence achieved
by the family.
Jealousy within a divorcing family is caused
by insecurity, dependency, and
fear of abandonment.
A partner may be trying to deal with their own
fears of abandonment by becoming very rigid about what they require
of the other person in order for that person to prove their worth.
This week on Relationships 2.0 I will be interviewed
by my colleague and friend Shawn T. Smith, PsyD about my new book, Love Me Don't Leave Me: Overcoming
Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships.
In therapy, issues around separation, loss,
abandonment, protection and proximity
of attachment figures, coupled with concomitant rage,
fear, anxiety, and depression are expressed and experienced
by most dealing with the break up
of a marriage relationship.
Dependency involves both insecure attachment, expressed as difficulty tolerating aloneness; intense
fear of loss,
abandonment, or rejection
by significant others; and urgent need for contact with significant others when stressed or distressed, accompanied sometimes
by highly submissive, subservient behavior.
The narcissistic and borderline personalities are simply superficial variations in the manifestations
of the inner core experiences
of fundamental self - inadequacy and
fear of rejection and
abandonment by others.
«The conceptualization
of the core pathology
of BPD as stemming from a highly frightened, abused child who is left alone in a malevolent world, longing for safety and help but distrustful because
of fear of further abuse and
abandonment, is highly related to the model developed
by Young (McGinn & Young, 1996)... Young elaborated on an idea, in the 1980s introduced
by Aaron Beck in clinical workshops (D.M. Clark, personal communication), that some pathological states
of patients with BPD are a sort
of regression into intense emotional states experienced as a child.
However, there were too many psychological factors that were a result
of Jason's witnessing
of family violence, the threat
of abandonment by his father and
fears around loosing his mother to cancer.
EFT was developed in the 1980s
by psychologists Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg to help couples caught in an unhappy cycle
of misunderstanding based on their
fears of abandonment and rejection.Johnson identifies three types
of dysfunctional attachment that develops when couples are in trouble:
For both the narcissistic and borderline personality structure, regulating their intense emotional distress originating from their core sense
of primal self - inadequacy and
fear of abandonment takes precedence over external restrictions, even the external restrictions placed on them
by truth and reality.
In response to the interpersonal rejection inherent to the divorce (i.e., narcissistic injury and
abandonment), the narcissistic / (borderline) parent engages the child in a role - reversal relationship as a «regulatory other» in order to regulate the intense anxiety experienced
by the narcissistic / (borderline) parent associated with the threatened collapse
of the narcissistic defense against the experience
of primal inadequacy and a tremendous
fear of abandonment.
Sad children, young and old, affected
by insensitive mothers and who may now struggle with attachment challenges, low self - esteem,
fear of abandonment,
fear of rejection,... too many adverse effects to list here.
Higher levels
of HIV - related internalized stigma, attachment - related anxiety (i.e.,
fear of abandonment by relationship partners), and concerns about being seen
by others while taking HIV medication were all associated with worse medication adherence.