Moderate forms of parental alienation include loss of self control, flareups of anger, and unconscious alliances with
the children against the target parent.
Alienating parents often use grandparents, aunts / uncles, and other elders to alienate
their children against the target parent.
Extreme forms of parental alienation include obsessive brainwashing, character assassination, and the false inducement of fear, shame, and rage in
children against the target parent.
In her overview, Amy Baker gives a standard view of Parental Alienation: The Alienating Parent typically uses 17 strategies to turn
their child against the Targeted Parent.
Far too many of these «professionals» do not see the alienating parent refusing to co-operate and actually brainwashing
the children against the targeted parent and their family.
Not exact matches
Targeted parents living in the nightmare of parental alienation need strategic guidance so that they can more effectively co-parent with a toxic ex before their
children turn
against them.
Family Systems Therapy: The
child's «triangulation» into the spousal conflict through the formation of a «cross-generational coalition» with an allied
parent against the
targeted parent, resulting in an «emotional cutoff» in the
child's relationship with the
targeted parent.
The
child is aligned with the alienating
parent in a campaign of denigration
against the
target parent, with the
child making active contributions.
Most researchers believe that any alienation of a
child against (the
child's) other
parent is harmful to the
child and to the
target parent.
Parental alienation is the manipulation of a
child's views geared
against a
targeted parent during the process of divorce or separation.
Targeted parents living in the nightmare of parental alienation need strategic guidance so that they can more effectively co-parent with a toxic ex before their
children turn
against them.
It includes what Dr. Gardner calls «self - created contributions by the
child in support of the alienating
parent's campaign of denigration
against the
targeted parent.»
As a
targeted parent, it is crucial that you realize you are being watched so that you do not keep sending your alienator ammunition to make their case
against you to your
children.
Anger, verbal and / or physical abuse
against the
targeted parent was experienced in front of the
child or third party on more than one occasion.
Parental alienation is when one hostile
parent attempts to unduly influence the minds and the feelings of the
children against the other
parent in order to win
child custody, destroy the relationship between the
targeted parent and
children, or both.
When involved in a high conflict
child custody battle, you're all too aware of how significant and overwhelming the smear campaign
against you, the
targeted parent, can be.
«Current practices in reunification therapy may involve simply listening to the
child's litany of complaints
against the
targeted parent, having the
targeted parent apologize to the
child for supposed parental failures (often exaggerated, distorted, or even fabricated by the
child), and encouraging the further disempowerment of the
targeted parent who must seek to appease the
child, continually, and without success in altering the
child's rejection.
It makes sense that charisma is the elusive quality that enables one
parent to alienate
children against the
target.
Since the constructs of narcissistic and borderline personality disorders and cross-generational coalitions of the
child with one
parent against the other
parent are established psychological constructs about which ALL mental health professionals working with
children and families should be familiar, for ANY mental health therapist or
child custody evaluator to miss making the diagnosis of the
child's cross-generational coalition involving a narcissistic / (borderline)
parent that is
targeted against a normal - range and affectionally available
parent is simply unacceptable and represents professional incompetence.
Entitlement: The
child feels entitled to have his or her every desire met by the
targeted - rejected
parent to the
child's satisfaction, and if the
targeted - rejected
parent fails to meet the
child's entitled expectations to the
child's satisfaction, the
child then feels entitled and justified in exacting a retaliatory retribution
against the
targeted - rejected
parent for the judged parental failure.
What if the favored
parent is authentically trying to protect the
child from an emotionally or physically or sexually abusing narcissistic
parent, and the narcissistic
targeted parent is manipulatively using the allegation of «parental alienation»
against the favored
parent to nullify the favored
parent's authentic efforts to protect the
child from abuse?
The
child is rewarded for acting antagonistically toward the
targeted parent and for devising his or her own charges
against the
targeted parent.
For everyone on this board who are
target parents in the horrid act of parental alienation, we have a page called MAMA, it stands for «Mothers
Against Maternal Alienation», please come by and like and share our page, in support of mothers who are
target parents and have lost their
children as a result.
However, the disorder wasn't only brainwashing or programming by a
parent, but was confounded by what he calls self - created contributions by the
child in support of the alienating
parent's campaign of denigration
against the
targeted parent.
This is a combination of the alienating
parent's influence and the
child's active contributions to the campaign of denigration
against the alienated /
target parent.
A research assistant contacted the interested
parents and conducted a screening interview by telephone, ensuring the families belonged to the
target group (e.g.
parents with
children in conflict with peers,
parents or other adults, protesting
against demands, often restless, having friends with bad influence or having been involved in vandalism, shoplifting or truancy)(Bjornsdotter 2014).
2) Do you have experience with parental alienation and advice for how the «
targeted» (alienated)
parent can approach
parenting a
child who has essentially been brainwashed
against them?
It becomes Parental Alienation Syndrome when the
child capitulates and begins to participate in the campaign
against the
targeted parent.
Otherwise, the therapist may rush to resolve the dilemma by aligning
against the
targeted parent, thus, allowing for a shared — albeit false — reality with the
child.
In PA cases, one
parent has turned his or her
children against the other
parent, destroying the loving bonds the
children and the
target parent once enjoyed.
The alienating
parent's primary purpose for indoctrinating into the
children a campaign of denigration
against the
target parent is to gain leverage in the court of law.
In mild cases the
child is taught to disrespect, disagree with, and even act out antagonistically
against the
targeted parent.