Most parents who have more than one child will sooner or later find one
child tattling on the other.
Sometimes
children tattle because they are truly confused.
Instead of stepping in each time
your child tattles, guide your child toward figuring out how to work through conflicts and help make the situation better for your child on a more general level.
Not exact matches
If you punish the other
child, you are reinforcing the
tattle taler's behavior, teaching him that by coming to you, he gets what he wants — your attention and the other
child in trouble.
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Giving your
child some work to do when he
tattles puts the burden back on his shoulders.
All that is a recipe for
tattling, but parents can help guide kids toward more positive behavior and teach
children how to tell the difference between
tattling and telling to help someone.
Another effective way to discourage
tattling is by giving your
child some tools to help him learn how to solve some problems on his own.
As your
child moves into the preschool and early childhood years, focus on communication, whether that takes the form of whining,
tattling, endless questions or some combination of all three.
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Teachers should be on your team to HELP your
child, not just
tattle to you about his behavior.
PC
Tattle provides parents effective supports of checking their
children online activities.
If you have an older
child, you can just let him or her
tattle when the baby gets near the water.
With age, though,
children become more reluctant to admit a misdeed and view truth - telling or
tattling as likely to get them in trouble or pose problems for their friends, research shows.
A new Social Development study reveals that even when
children can not be blamed for a transgression, they
tattle about it nonetheless, likely because
tattling may be a way for
children to enforce norms on others and thus help maintain cooperation.
When young
children see a peer cause harm, they often
tattle to a caregiver.
But why should we find tittle -
tattle about the private lives of minor celebrities, royalty and politicians of such overwhelming interest that it can drive the starving
children of Somalia and the war - ravaged cities of former Yugoslavia off the front pages of even the most sedate of newspapers?
Christakis even finds a benefit in the inequities that arise when kids are allowed to play together: «When the older kids get too mean or too rough or don't respect the feelings of the younger
children, the little ones rattle their chains: they go on strike, they break things, they
tattle.
Teaching
children to be able to discern the differences between telling and
tattling; 6.
However, if a
child is excessively accessing a parent in order to
tattle or complain about the other parent's rules, then the parent receiving the communication has a responsibility to shut that down with the
child.
Socially competent
children who are aggressive tend to use aggression in a way that is accepted by peers (e.g., fighting back when provoked), whereas the aggressive acts of rejected
children include tantrums, verbal insults, cheating, or
tattling.
They may encourage the
child to spy and
tattle on the other parent.
Tattling was always a pet peeve of mine and, whenver one of mine would come to me witha complaint that someone had hit, or grabbed, etc., I learned to say, «What happened just before he / she hit, grabbed, etc.» I believe anything parents can do to foster a positive self - image (that means private, not public, discipline, even if it means a quick walk to a restroom or back to the car), and to encourage mutual respect (allowing a
child to express how he / she feels about the discipline being meted out by the parent, and giving an age - appropriate
child a say - so in the discipline) will not only benefit the
child, but will benefit all those who encounter that
child during his / her lifetime.