Freely
choosing celibacy or living the single life in faithfulness to Christ offers a unique kind of service to the Church and the world.
Tears gathered in my eyes several times as Wesley, with remarkable candor, describes the loneliness that comes with
choosing celibacy.
There were three types of Man described: ones who
chose celibacy to dedicate themselves to God's service, such as monks, priests, or nuns; those castrated by others, these are traditional eunuchs; and those who were «born that way.»
Rejecting the recommendation of a task - force study that such ordination be allowed, the assembly voted instead that only repentant homosexuals who
choose celibacy or seek a reorientation of their sexual desires should be considered as qualified candidates for ministry.
Among the latter, I know some who act on that attraction and others who have
chosen celibacy.
Some may
choose celibacy.
«The homosexual Christian who
chooses celibacy continually, to one degree or another, it seems to me, finds himself or herself longing for something relationally that remains tragically, tantalizingly just out of reach,» writes Wesley.
His point about Jesus makes a lot of sense to me, and it forced me to confront a patronizing sense of pity, perhaps even condescension, I have for Christians who have, for whatever reason,
chosen celibacy.
Is it right for the church to demand that all of our LGBT brothers and sisters
choose celibacy?
There is a long tradition of Christians - from priests to nuns to laypeople - who have
chosen celibacy as a higher calling toward spiritual fulfillment.
He also criticizes the authors of the statement for seeming to dismiss those who identify as both gay and orthodox, who have
chosen celibacy rather than living out their orientation.
It is unusual for the average person to
choose celibacy as a permanent lifestyle.
Not exact matches
another example, a small percentage of Christians are called to sacredotal
celibacy, but 99.9 % are encouraged to marry - there is no discrepancy involved, and they are not just some ideas in the bible that we pick and
choose between to believe - there is one consistent and variegated holistic understanding off the whole bible to those who can reason well and who have minimal training that churches should be doing in sunday, but mostly are not.
-LSB-... this] ought not be surprising — except to those who carry a burden of false assumptions about love,
celibacy, and their relationship... As a mature man, he took the decision to express his [proven] capacity for love as a celibate in the priesthood... He was
choosing to express his love and his paternal instinct spiritually, through the gift of his life in service to others.
In addition, there is the value of temporary, deliberately
chosen periods of
celibacy, of solitude, of concentration on an important task, even periods of silence.
The NRB makes a point of not challenging the discipline of
celibacy for priests,
choosing rather to stress that
celibacy must mean
celibacy, as in chastity.
Celibacy is the route Wesley has
chosen.
A more substantive rebuttal is Scanzoni and Mollenkott's assertion following Thielicke that only with the gift of
celibacy freely
chosen can abstinence be a creative alternative for fulfilling one's God - intended humanity (here is the exception clause under which Jesus» and Paul's humanity can be viewed).
I would urge to hold back on such criticism, but seeing as he
chose not to actively seek change, dropped the pursuit of
celibacy, and considered joining an arguably heretical denomination - seemingly because it accommodated his lifestyle rather than due to genuine theological convictions - I must agree with you.
And I agree that
celibacy is most definitely not inherrently harmful when freely choosen, though I may disagree that most celibate gay christians are in fact «freely
choosing» that path as opposed to feeling pressured into it and thus struggling with it in a less than beneficial fasion (which is not to say that there isn't a level of struggle inherent in the Christian life which can in fact be benificial).
I got the distinct impression (from older of your blog posts I believe) that you and New Directions took a fairly solid «side B» stance, that same - sex acts were sin, and that a large portion of your ministry was devoted solely to gay Christians who took a firm decision on the
celibacy route (albeit with a much greater amount of respect and acceptance for those who
chose to partner.)
However, it is unlikely that we could bridge the cultural gap and
choose as compass someone who was an ascetic and a vegetarian and who promoted
celibacy even in marriage for the sake of spiritual growth.
I guess my question, with that in mind, is this: After reading such an intimate account of the challenges that come with a life of
celibacy, is it fair for those of us who are not in the position to make such a decision ourselves to demand that others
choose that life?
- I'd be interested to hear from those readers who, for whatever reason, have
chosen a vocation that involves lifelong
celibacy.
In the meantime, over on Facebook, I'm responding to challenges I've received for inviting Julie Rodgers, a gay Christian who has
chosen to pursue
celibacy, to be part of our «Ask a...» interview series.
The bible teaches that forced
celibacy is unnatural; that it is the doctrine of devils; the bishop shall be the husband of one wife, scripture says, and may be celibate if they so
choose, but it can not be forced.
Perhaps you want to point out that, if he
chooses your FWB option, you wish him well, and you are happy for him in his
celibacy, and you are happy that
celibacy is everything he dreamed it will be... for HIM.
While I had a few flings, I
chose complete
celibacy for three and a half years.
Fernanda (Aubrey Plaza) is sour - faced, curse - spewing and trouble - making; Alessandra (Alison Brie) has been forced by her rich father to
choose a life of embroidery and
celibacy over romance; and Geneva (Kate Micucci) is a sexually confused and desperately bored gossip.