Unfortunately, big promises often fail and can leave
clients feeling angry and confused.
Not exact matches
Whether you say something rude to a customer service agent who isn't meeting your needs, or you blow up at a
client who seems to be wasting your time,
angry feelings can lead to disaster if you're not careful.
A
client felt rejected by dates who ghosted her and was
angry with herself for being «useless» and thought she'd never find a decent man.
In my many years of working with
clients, I've seen over and over that caretaking others leads to
feeling alone, empty,
angry, depressed and resentful.
I can't tell you how many times my
clients and attendees at conferences where I speak have told me they
feel angry and frustrated because they didn't set out to be promoters — just writers.
If you
feel pressured to lower your rate to be competitive with the other quotes, you will likely end up
angry at yourself, and the
client, for working at less than your normal rate.
Most importantly, the key to defusing a tense situation with an
angry client is simple: make them
feel like they've been heard.
(Let me just stress, the
clients I am describing are not unhappy with our service or
angry in any way - they just
feel the process is a team effort and they want to be intimately involved with every word).
Color Your Life For example, the therapist and
client might work together to figure out which colors represent which
feelings (such as blue for sad, red for
angry, yellow for happy, etc.).
This can help the
client understand how to «throw away»
angry feelings.
My
clients often express that they are
feeling scattered, anxious,
angry, and sad.
For example, they might affirm the
client's anger about something the other spouse has done during the marriage and encourage the
client to use their anger (and the facts that led them to
feel angry) as a sort of weapon in the negotiations as would be true in litigation.
Instead
clients would be taught how to accept the
angry feelings and still speak and behave constructively regardless of what
feelings are present.
That means that when you sit in that
client's chair for the first time, you probably will be
feeling angry, hurt and hopeless.
Many of my
clients have come to counselling
feeling anxious, sad, frustrated, lonely, depressed,
angry or just really stuck and we have been able to work together to change those
feelings.
I've found that in counseling for anger management, focusing on what triggers anger for you, developing ways to regulate your own emotions that work for you, and identifying distorted thought patterns that can fuel
angry feelings are effective tools that help
clients to get anger under control.
Other
clients expressed greater
feelings of happiness and
feeling less
angry or «cranky» as a result of the Work It out Program.
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy [DBT] Group [Adults]: Frequently used to treat symptoms associated with Borderline Personality Disorder,
clients in DBT can expect to be assigned therapeutic homework, role - play alternate ways of interacting with other people, and practice adaptive coping skills such as distress tolerance, emotion regulation, mindfulness, radical acceptance, interpersonal effectiveness and other positive means of managing intense
feelings or emotions when
angry, depressed, anxious, or upset.
Frequently used to treat the symptoms associated with Borderline Personality Disorder,
clients in DBT can expect to be assigned therapeutic homework, role - play alternate ways of interacting with other people, and practice positive and adaptive coping skills such as distress tolerance, emotion regulation, mindfulness, radical acceptance, interpersonal effectiveness and other positive means of managing intense
feelings or emotions when
angry, depressed, anxious, or upset.
Unfortunately, stories like the above example are common among divorce
clients, and it's natural for these
clients to
feel angry.