By giving them more contact and
closeness than they desire and a sense of belonging and loyalty.
Not exact matches
If she
desires a
closeness to many of the women, she will certainly have to work at it in ways other
than the usual contacts through service groups.
If you can get in touch with your soft underbelly: your wishes, your fears, your
desire for connection and for
closeness, and if you can communicate those in a loving respectful way, then you stand a much greater chance of having your partner respond to you with increased affection and
closeness than if you blame and criticize.
People high in attachment anxiety, those who
desire intense
closeness with a partner but fear rejection and are highly attentive to relationship threats, monitor their partners more closely on Facebook.4 In general, especially during young adulthood, women tend to score higher on attachment anxiety
than do men.5 In our study, we found that attachment anxiety explained gender differences in partner monitoring in response to feelings of jealousy.
Men and women rated kissing on the lips as being more intimate
than cuddling, hand holding, hugging, and massaging.2 In a study of adolescents and young adults, those who engaged in more frequent kissing had higher levels of relationship satisfaction.3 One reason for this satisfaction boost was because conflict with a romantic partner was easier to resolve when there was more affection, like kissing on the lips, in the relationship.2 Kissing promotes emotional
closeness, and partners report that kissing after sex strengthens their bond and that they
desire to kiss each other after orgasm.1 This makes sense because kissing may increase levels of oxytocin (aka the «love» hormone), a chemical that promotes bonding.4
In a nutshell, people who are anxious tend to intensely
desire connections with other people and are worried that their partners will abandon them whereas those who are avoidant tend to be wary of
closeness to others and often feel that their partners want to be closer to them
than they would like.
Because of the associated sensitivity to potential rejection and a strong
desire for
closeness, anxious attachment, rather
than secure attachment, should trigger stronger neural activation in response to negative emotional faces in the brain regions implicated in processing social rejection (i.e., dorsal ACC, anterior insula, Gillath et al., 2005) and regions implicated in threat detection (i.e., amygdala, Vrtička et al., 2008) when primed with neutral schema.
Are you noticing you are drifting apart in your relationships rather
than experiencing the
closeness you
desire?»