I must say more: Take two very sensitive,
codependent people.
Whereas
a codependent person cedes identity and power to his or her partner and can hardly function independently, an interdependent person retains individual identity while also forging a partnership based on shared power.
Often times there is
a codependent person somewhere in the sphere of an addict.
Not exact matches
And you have admitted many time that you did it for self - protection of you mind and spirit YOU -[So, more and more, we will see
people extricate themselves from a
codependent or toxic relationship for the sake of their own health.].
So, more and more, we will see
people extricate themselves from a
codependent or toxic relationship for the sake of their own health.
People who finance the addict are
CODEPENDENT and are enabling the behavior.
Children who are
codependent on their parents tend to become
codependent on another
person later in life.
If you start with a set of guidelines that set a standard for a healthy amount of time spent with the other
person and engaging in other activities and soon find yourself breaking those guidelines and commitments, you might be laying the foundation for a
codependent relationship.
«As someone who has always been in
codependent relationships, this book opened up the idea that a healthy relationship can lead both partners to be independent as well as close and together by coming up with agreements that meet both
people's needs by freeing up time for creativity.
She recalls her own recognition of a
codependent marriage: «My fears of being alone, my deep longing for the love and attention outside of me, the fact that I had placed my power in another
person making them the source of my love and happiness, all came into my awareness and there was no turning back.»
««Narcissists are
codependent, too,» she says, «they often pair with
people who sacrifice their needs and idealize them.»
Perhaps the most important question is whether two
people locked in a
codependent relationship can get to a point where their bond is functional?
There's evidence to suggest that
people who grow up in unstable families where issues like addiction, abuse, traumatic experiences, and neglect are more likely to develop
codependent characteristics.
There's consensus that a
person is more likely to exhibit
codependent behaviors if their familial background was dysfunctional.
Too much leaning on another
person is not only draining on both parties, but it tends to encumber intimacy if one spouse is turned off by his wife's
codependent tendencies.
This is a great book for
people who think they might be
codependent but do not know much about codependency in the first place.
Often, the partner of an addicted
person exhibits
codependent behaviors, such as enabling, justifying, or ignoring the addicted
person's behaviors.
Instead of an addicted
person thinking their partner is controlling, judgmental, or
codependent, they see how the partner is desperate for closeness and connection.
Just as the alcoholic or addict is addicted to a substance, the
codependent is addicted to some
person, place or thing, such as the relationship with the alcoholic or addict.
by Deirdre Hally Shaffer, LCSW «
Codependent relationships are a type of dysfunctional helping relationship where one
person supports or enables another
person's addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under - achievement.
This leads a
person to do things from a selfish perspective, which is why the
codependent seems so narcissistic.
When a
person is in a
codependent relationship with an addict or a compulsive
person, they never know what to expect each day.