Answer C is close to what I'd say is a correct answer if I'd asked you what the research shows about
cohabiting prior to marriage — but that is not the question that I asked.
Based on this theory about inertia, we have tested and shown (in study after study) that
cohabiting prior to marriage or making clear plans for marriage is associated with less happiness and more negativity in marriage.
Among
those cohabiting prior to marriage, decided to live together (rather than slid) was based on the item, «How did you start living together?»
Before any of these studies were conducted, we predicted that couples who cohabited only after engagement (or marriage) would, on average, do better in marriage than those who began to
cohabit prior to having such clear, mutual plans to marry.
Couples who
cohabit prior to marriage because they want to «try things out» often adopt this approach because they already see some potential problems with long - term compatibility.4 It should come as no surprise then that these types of relationships are less than stable if they transition into a marital relationship (in fact, it's very likely that this «group» of cohabiters contributes a large degree to the finding that premarital cohabitation is bad for marriage).
But, couples who
cohabit prior to marriage for practical reasons and plan to someday marry all along fare better (and in some respects may fare better than those that didn't cohabit), especially because these couples have had practice confronting and working through life and relationship stressors.5 For example, they've most likely experienced conflict and had an opportunity to see how they treat each other in such situations.6
Thirty - one percent of those who
cohabited prior to having plans for marriage were in the top 40 percent of marital quality versus 43 percent of those who only cohabited after getting married or making a commitment to marry.
We predicted long ago that those who wait until either marriage or engagement to live together should be at lower risk in marriage than those who
cohabit prior to achieving clarity about a commitment to the future.
But, on average, the group with higher risk should be those who
cohabit prior to attaining mutual clarity about commitment because therein lies a subgroup who is at increased risk for marrying someone they would not had married if they had never moved in together.
Her analysis is focused on couples who married and whether or not those couples had
cohabited prior to marrying.
Not exact matches
Further, the Crown's position «would also require us to find that
cohabiting partners across Canada, including spouses, commit a sexual assault when either one of them, even with express
prior consent, kisses or caresses the other while the latter is asleep.
In addition, she has already
cohabited with two partners, and she has a son from one of these
prior relationships.
Similarly, interventions to strengthen relationships and encourage marriage among
cohabiting couples with children would be most profitable if focused on couples with a first child, rather than couples with children from
prior relationships.
If you look at how satisfaction changes from before to after couples
cohabit (i.e., the subset of participants that make up the longitudinal sample), satisfaction generally increases
prior to cohabitation and then levels off (i.e., it does not change).
Those who are married or
cohabiting who described their relationship as «very good or good» were most likely to report that they had been feeling good about themselves
prior to the survey.
Those who have children from
prior relationships are more likely to have
cohabited with and to have had more romantic relationships with people who are not their current partner.
Jennifer, a single mom who recently ended a nine - year
cohabiting relationship with the father of her three year - old - son, said
prior to their split, she and her ex were «secure in our relationship, and no wedding, piece of jewelry, or common last name was going to make us feel any more so.»
At the end of the day, her analyses tell us about people who married their
cohabiting partners, and whether or not that marriage was more or less likely to end based on a history of
cohabiting together
prior to marriage.
Not all her analyses use controls, but where she does, Kuperberg includes variables such as age at co-residence (or age at marriage, depending), education, race / ethnicity, family stability growing up, if one grew up religious or not, if one had previously
cohabited with someone other than the mate (serial cohabitation), if the couple had moved in together while expecting a baby, and if there had been any birth
prior to
cohabiting (within the relationship or from a
prior one).
As I understand her analyses, here is one way to summarize her findings: For people who only ever live with the one person they end up marrying, and who do not have a child
prior to
cohabiting, and who wait to
cohabit or marry until after the age 23, the risk for divorce related to
cohabiting before marriage is very low.
Behaviors such as
cohabiting or having a child
prior to marriage increased the risk of divorce.