They also teach a more
complementarian view of male - female relationships with a strong emphasis on the leadership or headship of men, particularly in the church and home.
Complementarianism (also known as «soft patriarchy»): Christians who identify as
complementarians believe that the Bible requires Christian women to submit to male leadership in the home, church (and, according to some *), society.
She explained to me that when she went to college and began attending a conservative
complementarian church with her friends, she felt ill - prepared to explain why she supported women in ministry.
When I write a post about gender equality, for example, I try to point to very specific quotes
from complementarian leaders in order to avoid creating a straw man and to focus the conversation around one or two ideas.
The response
by complementarians to these questions as posed on the blog has been mostly silence, even when I've specifically asked for engagement.
You see this sort of language a lot in
complementarian literature: «real men,» «real women,» «real marriage,» «hardwired,» «programmed,» «blueprint» — as if masculinity and femininity are rigid, set - in - stone ideals to which we must ascribe, rather than fluid expressions of our unique selves.
I know many
complementarians who, although they believe men should hold authority over women in the home, church, and society, make an exception for the marriage bed, acknowledging the Apostle Paul's teachings on mutuality in this regard (1 Corinthians 7:1 - 5).
One would think that a truly
complementarian perspective would make room for a Church in which both masculinity and feminity function together, in harmony, not hierarchy.
So I was surprised and disturbed to see a mainstream
complementarian organization — The Gospel Coalition — endorse male authority and female submission in sex.
Of course, most
complementarians do not condone abuse, but statistics do support that power imbalances till ground for one partner to abuse the other.
For the past three years, on the blog and in the book, I've been asking questions about common
complementarian positions on biblical womanhood.
I wrestled
with complementarian views which held women are subservient to, and helpers for men, only allowed to serve designated roles, none of which include anything in church leadership.»
My point is simply that this is one of many examples in which everyday
complementarians seem to be somewhat at odds with their leaders.
But even more frustrating has been a general refusal among
complementarian leaders to engage in conversation about what the Bible actually says.
Complementarians often say that what's at stake in this debate is the authority of Scripture, an authority that is compromised whenever Christians fail to live by «every word» of the Bible.
In other words, this is a discussion of missiology, not an argument
about complementarian / egalitarian views — that won't be solved here.
They are also concerned that I presented and explored a variety of divergent perspectives on what «biblical womanhood» means (from Jewish, Catholic, Amish, feminist, polygamist, Christian fundamentalist and
complementarian viewpoints, to name a few), including some viewpoints with which they do not agree.
Mary has expressed disappointment that her organization's vision of biblical womanhood was not presented alongside some of the
other complementarian groups I feature in the book, like The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, The Vision Forum, The Danvers Statement, Debi Pearl, Dorothy Patterson, John Piper, Wayne Grudem, the contributors to Recovering Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, and others.
Women — If you're like me, then you have a diversity of friends, some with more egalitarian leanings and others with
more complementarian leanings.
But, as we have discussed at length over the past year, for modern - day Christian patriarchalists (sometimes
called complementarians), hierarchal gender relationships are God - ordained, so the essence of masculinity is authority, and essence of femininity is submission.
[It should be noted here that
complementarian notions of manhood and womanhood tend to be based on culturally — influenced stereotypes, many of which project idealized notions of the post-industrial revolution nuclear family onto biblical texts rather than taking those texts on their own terms — a topic we've discussed at length in the past and will continued to discuss in the future.]
Even writer Jason Meyer from The Gospel Coalition (a
mainstream Complementarian parachurch organization) states that Complementarianism asks women to «take the most vulnerable position,» and can «quickly become a dangerous position when [these] views get distorted.»
This makes sense, given the recent push
among complementarian leaders to embrace patriarchy — which, by definition, refers to a society characterized by male / father (pater) rule (archy).
But Piper's response reveals that not
even complementarians live by every word of the Bible.Complementarians do not require women to cover their heads in prayer (1 Corinthians 11:5) or to abide by the Levitical Purity Laws that make them ceremonially unclean during their periods.
The word «submission» has become synonymous with «subordination» and so it is assumed that only
conservative complementarian wives submit to their husbands.
But it never fails: Any sort of engagement with complementrarian ideas is immediately followed by the accusation that «that's not what
complementarians really believe» or «you're pointing to an extreme example» or «you've created a straw man.»
Among
fellow complementarians, I can't help but think we fear any support for paid leave would be perceived an endorsement for mothers working outside of the home.
The
strict complementarian position of Cedarville University raises questions about ordination and the nature of the church.
Furthermore, when my speaking calendar is full, I tend to make more money per hour than Dan,
which complementarians warn against.
Dan and I are often asked by
complementarians how, without a hierarchal structure, we make difficult life decisions together.
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