I think that baby 2 is the one that gets the harder time, (if you'd even call it that) compared with 1, they have to wait longer at times, they
cry more as they get older cos number 1 is mean to them, no matter how much you hover
over them this still happens, I find it heartbreaking how many times I have soothed number two,
crying after having a
toy taken, being pushed etc. when number 1 never experienced this harsher reality!