When choosing a target maximum drinking water concentration for arsenic, for example, think about what
cultural assumptions went into the risk assessments that underlie them.
One of the things that's interesting is we are very, I think we parent very much as partners but it's one of those things where I'm kind of unaware where I make
assumptions in things, but what I really am aware of is I know that she carries guilt over not being around for the kids all the time, that I don't have because there's no
cultural expectation that dad is
going to be around all the time, so the fact that I want to or don't want to is kind of like my choice, but for her there's all this expectation around what it means to be a mom and what kind of care you're supposed to give and I know that it's there and it weights on her.