Sentences with phrase «divorce is better for children»

Work on making your spouse understand that an amicable divorce is better for your children and that acting vengeful and hostile toward each other will only hurt your children.

It sounds good, and I know they have great intentions, but you can't find any psychologist who will say that divorce is good for children.

Shared parenting after divorce is best for children, has the endorsement of 110 world experts, is supported by 43 peer reviewed papers, is favored by 70 percent of the population and was the conclusion of the largest study on children of divorce.

Not exact matches

The groundbreaking work that Daniel Patrick Moynihan did in 1965, on the black family, is an example — along with the critical research of psychologist Judith Wallerstein over several decades on the impact of divorce on children; Barbara Dafoe Whitehead's well - known work on the outcomes of single parenthood for children; Sara McLanahan and Gary Sandefur's seminal book, Growing Up with a Single Parent; and David Blankenhorn's Fatherless America, another lengthy summarization of the bad empirical news about family breakup.

The growth counselor's function is to help such persons as they work through their resistance to bury a dead relationship; uncouple without infighting so as to avoid further hurt to each other and to their children; agree on a plan for the children that will be best for the children's mental health; work through the ambivalent feelings that usually accompany divorce — guilt, rage, release, resentment, failure, joy, loss — so that each person's infected grief wound can heal; discover what each contributed to the disintegration of their relationship; learn the relationship - building and love - nurturing skills which each will need either to enjoy creative singlehood or to establish a better marriage.

But this part of her argument raises another question: If people's love for their children can motivate them to make heroic efforts to be good parents after divorce, couldn't the same amount of effort be expended to make many of the marriages work in the first place?

All had been married for at least nine years (rates of divorce peak in the seventh year of marriage), had at least one child and had marriages that both spouses considered happy, lasting and good.

What was best for the happiness of the adults overshadowed stability for children and divorce was made easy.

lmao sure tell that the the hormone driven teens of the world... you can only have woopie if your going to marry, marriage will go through the roof... but so will divorce and lawyers will love that mentality because child custody battles make them loads of money and let's not forget the physcologist / phychiatrists that will make big money having to help all these emotionally damaged adults that were dragged through custody battles due to the fact their genetic donors procreated when it was the best time for them.

On a different note, Christian folksinger Bob Bennett scored a hit with a song he wrote for his children while going through a divorce: «There is no such thing as divorce between a father and his son / No matter what has happened, no matter what will be / There's no such thing as divorce between you and me... Sometimes I cry over the things I can't undo / And the words I never should have said in front of you / But I pray the good will somehow overcome the bad / And where I failed as a husband, I'll succeed as your dad.»

Here the task may not be to make divorce more difficult to obtain; rather, the task may be to require divorcing parents to make better long - term financial plans for their children, plans which the courts could enforce.

Despite the increasing divergence between secular and biblical understandings of marriage, signs of this original plan of God are still evident in the world around us, e.g. the fact that living together before getting married increases rather than decreases the risk of divorce and the fact that marriage is the best place for bringing up children.

Similarly, my motivation for being a good husband to my wife is not that I fear she may divorce me, take my kids away, and bankrupt me with alimony and child support obligations.

well jen i hope your children are safe from some hetro rapist I hope somone does not make you have an abortion I hope you do not get a divorce I hope some man who is married does not look at you and lust after you I hope you do not vote for any politician who decides to have an affair.

No one else has even hinted at childless divorce being any easier than child - full divorce, for lack of a better word.

Shirley Thomas, child psychologist and author of «Parents Are Forever: a Step - By - Step Guide to Becoming Successful Coparents After Divorce,» and Dr. Robi Ludwig, Psy.D, well - known psychotherapist, offer these 12 tips for talking to kids about dDivorce,» and Dr. Robi Ludwig, Psy.D, well - known psychotherapist, offer these 12 tips for talking to kids about divorcedivorce:

It is not as if kids can not develop meaningful relationships with girlfriends or boyfriends after divorce — of course they can — but the more thoughtful consideration on your part the better the chances for your children to adapt to the new situation.

Like all good dads in a divorce situation, you want what's best for your children, so you decide to try the joint custody route.

Recent publications suggest that well - developed joint custody arrangements are often best for helping children survive the impacts of divorce.

But even within some marriages and in many divorces, she notes, «too many children grow up without parents who work as a team for the benefit of their children» — they are just not good co-parents.

The more quickly the adults going through the divorce take responsibility for being parents instead of spouses, the better the chances the children will have of adjusting to the new reality of their lives.

Consequences of Parental Divorce and Marital Unhappiness for Adult Well - Being Article by Amato and Booth The Marriage and Divorce of the Children of Divorce Article by Glenn and KramerReview by Richard Niolon These two articles were published in the journal Family Therapy.

The parents are even less able to provide stability and psychological strength for them after a divorce, and as a result the children are even more prone to become clinging but inconsolable in their distress, as well as to act out, suffer mood swings, and become oversensitive to stress.

If you find that you're in an unhappy marriage, you may wonder if it's better to stay together for the sake of your children or to get a «good» divorce and set positive role models for them.

Research from E. Mavis Hetherington and John Kelly in For Better or Worse: Divorce Reconsidered suggests that nearly 80 % of all children of divorced parents end up as happy and as well adjusted as children from intact families, so if the divorce and subsequent co-parenting go well, the kids may well bDivorce Reconsidered suggests that nearly 80 % of all children of divorced parents end up as happy and as well adjusted as children from intact families, so if the divorce and subsequent co-parenting go well, the kids may well bdivorce and subsequent co-parenting go well, the kids may well be fine.

While we recognize the risks, it is also important to acknowledge that divorce may be the best answer for children in cases of domestic violence, abuse or other harmful behavior patterns on the part of one or the other (or both) of the parents.

Some states now recognize that in cases where both parents were equally involved prior to a divorce or separation, it is important for the well - being of the children for that pattern of equal involvement to continue.

For the younger adoptee, it is easy to internalize the anguish of knowing that two mothers (or two sets of parents) have a claim on you and to feel some emotional tug - of - war as a result, but this is common among children of divorce as well, and nobody would force a child to live with one parent while denying the existence of the other.

His book, The Truth about Children and Divorce, was a finalist for the Books for a Better Life Award and Library of Virginia Literary Award in 2005.

Which is why her book includes a chapter on whether to stay or go, and how divorce can impact children for better or worse.

If you're a child or divorce or co-parenting with an ex, you know that even if it's for the best in the long run, it's difficult when a family breaks up.

Parents who do a good job managing the stresses of divorce for children often are surprised by how quickly their kids make the adjustment.

If one of the reasons why your marriage ended was due to your spouse being a narcissist, you probably hoped that things would get better for you and your children after your divorce.

There were a lot of other good books about divorce for children, how it's not your fault, and how mom and dad still love you, but not one on this issue of transitioning between mom's house and dad's house.

Putting the child's best interests forward and honoring what is best for the child is extremely hard to do in many post divorce families.

Divorce therapy for divorcing couples with children is quite simple, if parents take the well - being of their children seriously, show their commitment through actions vs. mere words, and can let go of needing to be right in order to do what's right for the child.

It is best to allow children of divorce to decide for themselves what kind of relationship they will have with each of their parents.

According to Psychology Today, how a child is told about the divorce will stay with them for a lifetime and, in order to help with any lasting trauma, it's best to «give much thought to the setting and circumstances when you break the news.»

Divorce is going to be difficult and it's key to take the time to breathe and stay calm for your child as well as yourself.

When you have a good lawyer, the divorce process can be far less stressful for you and your children.

Having a good parenting plan is essential for divorced fathers that are sharing custody with their children's mother.

Jennifer Horvath, whose younger child was 4 when she divorced, says, «I told the two kids that since their father and I weren't getting along very well and we were all tired of the fighting, I would find a new place for the three of us to live.»

«When somebody says, «Oh my gosh, I heard you're getting a divorce,» you can say, «Yes, it's too bad our marriage is ending, but Bob and I have made a commitment to deal with it in a mature way, as is best for our children,»» she suggested.

Yet there is ample empirical evidence that shared parenting produces better attachment, adjustment, and outcomes for children of divorce, including infants and very young children.

When both parents have been actively involved as caregivers in infants» lives, continued frequent opportunities for routine interaction with both parents is crucial to children's well - being after divorce (see Lamb and Kelly, 2009).

Despite the fact that divorce is tough on families, staying together for the sole sake of the children may not be the best option.

In an ideal world, divorcing or separating parents would be able to set aside their personal differences and decide — together — the best custody option for their child (ren).

Divorce is not only confusing for spouses but for children as well.

During that time, I sank to the bottom and was not able to handle the boys growing up, who were taking advantage of divorces parents who could not work together for the well - being of their children.

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