Not exact matches
From the
birth of the
home page
to the rise of social, what creates loyalty changes as often as the algorithms
do.
Gothard's teachings involve rules upon rules all dealing with the outward, dress, hair, smiling, bright eyes, no
birth control or dating, no higher education for girls who must stay in the
home until the father decides what they should
do, how God blesses and is happy with you if you
do such and such, so many rules, those who really wanted
to please God were under the weight of things they could never accomplish... plus the male regime and women having
to be careful not
to defraud men by their dress or looks made it so easy for sexual predatory behaviors
to take hold and the woman at fault for the man's problems and such... ARGH!!!!!!!!!!!! No wonder some of the children of this regime became athiests.
How
did you come
to the decision
to have a natural
home birth?
As I continue on this journey, I find the more I learn about hospitals and standard procedures and doctors» timeframes, etc., the more I think women who elect
to birth in a hospital are «brave» rather than the women who
do so in their own
homes.
Even though he was born at a free - standing birthcenter with a midwife attending and therefore no epidural or other drugs
to make him sleepy, he
did not latch on right after
birth, nor for the five hours we were at the
birth center before going
home.
All that
birth in pop culture
does is motivate me
to be as healthy as possible as I work towards a
home birth with a midwife I trust on my terms.
I would love
to do a
home birth next time.
Perhaps it
does all come down
to money, but if that really were the case, then why wouldn't my insurance company reimburse me a measly $ 2000 (relatively speaking)
to cover my prenatal care,
home birth, and postnatal care that I had with a midwife for my son's
birth in 2006?
I didn't even know how
to go about finding a midwife who would attend a
home birth (Direct Entry Midwives, those who usually attend
home births, can not legally practice in my state, making finding care a bit more challenging).
I've
done a lot of research over the past few years regarding
home birth and, of course, came
to the conclusion that it was a good choice for me and my family.
Although I don't think I am brave enough
to have a
home birth, I would be willing
to learn about a birthing center or doula assistance at a hospital.
Although I
did not have an epidural with either my daughter's hospital
birth or my son's
home birth, there was a point during my induced labor with my daughter that an option like this would have appealed
to me (had I not had complications including low platelets that prevented me from getting an epidural anyway).
She feels the insinuation that women who
birth at
home do it
to feed their own ego at the expense of their child is «a crock.»
I think you covered most everything, and I also liked how she people ask her a lot how
to have a hospital
birth more like a
home birth (I guess people who have
to have a hospital
birth, for various reasons) and she said «Just don't be too obedient.»
Let's just support the right
to choose, the right for all women
to be able
to access any medical care she needs
to support her choice for
birth — and support women who are grieving all over the world at
home, in hospitals and many other places for their babies who didn't make it.
What makes me happy about this whole «orgasmic childbirth» thing is that 1) it will open more women's eyes
to the benefits of
home birth, and 2) it will, as you said, create the atmosphere that
birth doesn't necessarily have
to be painful.
Education during pregnancy rarely has anything serious
to do with breastfeeding, and since breastfeeding is perceived by most pre-parenthood women
to be a natural, instinctive thing instead of a learned behavior (on both mom & baby's part) if it doesn't go absolutely perfectly from the first moments they may feel something is wrong with THEM and clam up about it while quietly giving the baby the hospital - offered bottle along with the bag of formula samples they give out «just in case» even if you explicitly tell them you're breastfeeding (which was my experience with my firstborn in 2004 and one of the many highly informed reasons I chose
to birth my next two at
home).
Fathers were much less likely
to be involved after the
birth if their baby's mother lived with her parents during the pregnancy — and of course the very young mothers were more likely
to have been living with their own parents (or with one of them): 63 % of the youngest group of mums lived «at
home» while only 13 % of those aged 22 or over
did so.
And
to remember
to do some research not just about the pregnancy and about the
birth, but about what is normal baby behavior so that when you go
home with your baby you don't get freaked out, because you didn't really know what
to expect.
If you want a water
birth and
do not have an appropriately sized tub in your
home, you will have
to rent or buy a birthing pool.
However, many
home birth couples
do not choose
to hire a doula, probably due
to extra out - of - pocket expense.
In addition
to getting
to know each other over the course of the mom's pregnancy — learning about her hopes, fears, and wants for her
birth experience —
home birthing moms also have
birth plans
to clarify things like which post-
birth procedures the family
does and doesn't want (like vitamin K shot, eye ointment, etc.), and preferred hospitals and care providers
to call in case of transfer.
We typically suggest people
do this early on, and then forget all about it as they get back
to focusing on their plans for a healthy, normal
home birth.
And while I never overtly contradicted a care provider, unplugged my clients from their monitors without permission or guidance from their nurses, put my hand in front of a pair of scissors about
to cut an episiotomy, or secretly hoped for an accidental
home birth (or any other opportunity
to catch a baby), my
birth bag and arms - load - of - balls
did some serious damage
to my relationship (as a doula) with hospital staff.
Just because a
birth starts at
home doesn't mean it has
to finish there; if something goes wrong, or if the mom changes her mind, they transfer.
When you're
doing an intense physical activity like giving
birth, your body needs lots of water and food, so I was really glad
to be somewhere —
home — where I didn't have
to fight any outdated protocols in order
to eat and drink.
While I was fortunate
to have a «textbook»
home birth, so many of my friends and family experienced traumatic
births and I saw a real need
to do this work.
«If there is fear, stress or anxiety about
birth in general, about the unknowns of
birth or about what would happen if complications arose during the
home birth, it is unlikely that the woman would feel at ease enough
to allow her body
to do what it needs
to do.»
$ 25 off if you register 1 month in advance $ 25 off if you register with another family $ 25 off for
home birth families Please
do not skip prenatal education based on price or unable
to make a time commitment.
Second
birth, water
birth at
home, during pregnancy connected with midwife, read great books,
did hypobirth
home study, watched positive
birth videos, used natural techniques
to get baby into optimum position, created special birthing space.
Second time around with my son i planned a
home birth and it all happened very quickly so my midwife actually missed the
birth by seconds which meant we had a completely undisturbed
birth again, my husband caught him, my body
did what it had
to do, both
births were amazing and very calm.
As
to whether
home births are «safe» for people who don't have the royal obstetrician on call, the UK's National Child Trust states that for women having a second or subsequent baby,
home birth is «as safe as» delivering in a hospital, and also offers «other benefits for the mother.»
I chose
to birth at
home because I
did not want
to undergo another unnecessary cesarean.
Some have speculated that even if she delivers at
home, Kate will still have
to do a «photo call» after the
birth, as she
did following the
births of Princess Charlotte and Prince George,
to satiate the public.
Calling your midwife at the end of a pregnancy because you are just realizing an expectation that she has expressed throughout
to your wife is fairly inappropriate and demonstrates you haven't safely committed or planned for a safe
home birth (waiting
to pay her until the very last minute or until she has
to give the «or else» speech
does the same).
Determined despite opposition
to have
home birth, persevered
to find midwife, during pregnancy
did yoga, read a good book, said affirmations, worked really hard.
I
do not judge parents that make the choice
to have a
home birth.
At
home, you don't have
to fight
to get the kind of
birth you want
I trust that anyone who
does choose
to birth at
home with a midwife is making an informed decision.
Home birth, moved around and cleaned house, calm and tranquil, different positions, swayed hips, back rubbed, listens
to body and moves in labour according
to own impulses and desires, remembers she can
do it, trusts body
to push when ready, cord cut peacefully and in good time, baby straight
to skin and held while birthing placenta, peaceful and natural.
Women and men who choose
to birth at
home,
do so today because they believe it
to be the safest option (Boucher et al, 2007).
The really nice thing about a
home birth is that you are already there, in the space you were going
to be
doing your earliest child - rearing anyway.
And if I ever met Kate, whenever I was
done curtseying and fumbling over her title, I'd want
to talk
home birth, because I have a lot of thoughts.
If you
do want
to consider a
home birth you need
to prepare for it:
I don't think you need
to avoid surgery
to be treated humanely, and can certainly be treated inhumanely during a vaginal
birth at
home.
The «research»
done to try and prove
to people that
home birth would be more dangerous than hospital
birth is usually in favor of hospitals... Why?
Once you are
home, a midwife will
do a
home visit in the first week of your baby's life, and then we follow up at the
birth center with postpartum care up
to six weeks postpartum.
Hospitals also don't have the staff capacity
to provide continuous monitoring without the use of machines, and round the clock emotional support the way the midwives at
birth centers or at
home do.
In a
home birth you usually don't have
to go
to the hospital (though there's at least a 1 in 10 chance that you will), but you or yours have
to buy all kinds of crap beforehand (birthing pool, pads for protecting your bedsheets from blood...), then clean up after labor, make food and clean up after each meal, talk with the midwife or whoever is attending you (husband??)
but the more I read, the more I learned that some times it's just the
birth itself that becomes complicated and it doesn't matter how skilled the care giver is, the being
HOME leads
to disaster.