Use a variety of discussion structures (
e.g. partner talk, small group discussions, whole group discussions) to provide varied opportunities for learners to engage in group discussions.
Not exact matches
Working from this perspective, psychologist Susan Johnson
talks about how strengthening a feeling of security in romantic relationships can compensate for old wounds and allow
partners to be more empathic and flexible in the meanings they attribute to their
partner's behavior (
e.g., «Rick must have had a difficult day and that's why he just dumped his stuff when he got home.
When they stockpile, they then search for underlying patterns in these irritating
partner habits, and come up with an explanation that is their final «You» statement of blame,
e.g. «You're always
talking about yourself, you don't care about me at all!»
Continued closeness also suggests that the
partner may be more rewarding (
e.g., good to
talk to, fun to hang out with) which may also explain why there was greater commitment during the relationship.
(
E.g., do you find you're more emotional or lonely after
talking to your
partner than before?
Within two hours of engaging in sexual activity, participants completed an online questionnaire assessing the nature of their sexual activity, pillow
talk (5 items assessing post-sex communication,
e.g., «I expressed some positive feelings for my
partner»), and feelings about the relationship.
In other words, we begin to take on some of our romantic
partner's aspects into our sense of who we are (
e.g., you may find that you have picked up interests or hobbies that your
partner introduced you to), and we begin to
talk more in terms of «us» and «we» than «me» and «him / her».
In sharing, a
partner might let the other «in,» to experiences in their body (
e.g., it's a tight feeling in my chest), private self -
talk, or memories from the past that go with their feelings.
Prepare parents for a long future of co-parenting including the healthiest plans for
talking about divorce in the future, introducing children to dating and / or future romantic
partners, and co-parenting with children who have transitioned out of the immediate family (
e.g. College, workforce, etc.).
Before each discussion, the support seeker was asked to
talk to his / her
partner about a salient personal problem — defined as any problem the source of which was not the
partner or the relationship (
e.g., dealing with work stress, changing a bad habit).