What a securely attached child - OR ADULT - looks like: competent, self - confident, resilient, cheerful much of the time, anticipating people's needs (not from a co-dependent
place), empathic, humorous, playful, tries harder in the face of adversity; not vulnerable to approach by strangers because won't go to strangers (as adult, out - going without being foolhardy), good self - esteem, achieving, able to use all mental, physical, emotional resources fully, responsive, affectionate, able to make deep commitments as appropriate, able to be self - disclosing as appropriate, able to be available
emotionally as appropriate, able to interact well with others at school and in jobs / careers, likely to be more physically
healthy throughout life, self - responsible, giving from a «good heart»
place of compassion, has true autonomy, no co-dependent self, because of well developed internal modulation system, less likely to turn to external «devices» (addictions) to modulate affect
The persistent feeling that this movie so beautifully creates is that even when the world is bestowing blessings upon us, it's still at the bottom a sad
place, and the key to an
emotionally healthy existence involves some rooted acceptance of that.
When two people present themselves into a relationship, healed,
emotionally healthy, and confident in who they are as individuals and add to their unique individuality a
place for «we» it makes for a relationship beyond what most people even know is possible.
As with dyadic partnerships (couples), other
healthy relationship configurations need to operate from a
place of secure - functioning, which means the individuals feel
emotionally attuned to, safe, trusted and trusting, respected and together in this adventure of a relationship and life.